再來一次（性）——親密關係裡的委婉玩笑，正式場合別用
Don't even tell me you want to do it again.Chasing Amy · 1997 — 第 11 / 20 章 · 2'54" · C1
親密後追問選擇理由：on my own terms
親密之後，一句 Don't even tell me you want to do it again（別告訴我你還想再來一次）先把玩笑挑開，接著有人追問「為什麼是我？為什麼是現在？」；回答落在 on my own terms（按自己的方式）：這一步是自己想清楚走到的。
發生了什麼
兩個人親密後，一方問「為什麼是我？為什麼是現在？」，還點出對方喜歡的是女孩。回答的人承認「以前是的」，接著說，被朋友 ostracized（被排斥、被排擠）之後反而有時間把這事想清楚；這份感情不是家庭、社會或生活灌輸的結果，而是 on my own terms（按自己的方式）走到這一步。回答的人還說，把自己封閉起來、排除同性裡的可能，等於 halve your options（把選擇砍掉一半），太傻；遇到那個 just gets you（真正懂你）的人太難得，所以按自己的方式走到這裡，make all the difference（讓一切大不相同）。
這場戲看什麼
- 注意她先用性玩笑擋，再轉認真
- 留意 Still am 這類短插話的節奏
- 看她用因果鏈把選擇講成論證
留意這幾個短語
halve your optionsostracizedcome up withon my own terms
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本章短語
on my own terms
按自己的方式by my own rules
on my own terms（按自己的方式）是她整段解釋的支點：不是被家庭、社會或朋友推著走，也不是為了反抗而反抗，而是自己定條件、自己承擔選擇。
She returned to work on her own terms.她按自己的方式回到了工作崗位。
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- halve your options
把選擇砍掉一半
- ostracized
被排斥、被排擠
- come up with
想出、提出
- from day one
從一開始
- put a ceiling on
給某事設上限
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38 句台詞裡標了 30 處
用那種眼神看某人 這裡指帶性意味的注視
Well, because you were givin' me that look and I got all wet.got all 快說時連成一串，t 輕碰 a 滑到 wet。
Well, because you were givin' me that look and I got all wet.動了情/溼了——成人調情用語，陌生人或職場別用
Well, because you were givin' me that look and I got all wet.對某事反覆考慮過
Well, I've given that a lot of thought, you know.考慮某事
Now that I'm being ostracized by my friends, I've had plenty of time to think about it.被朋友排斥在外
Now that I'm being ostracized by my friends, I've had plenty of time to think about it.原因狀語從句：Now that 引出已成事實的原因，等於「既然/由於被朋友排斥」。
Now that I'm being ostracized by my friends, I've had plenty of time to think about it.想出、提出
她把長時間思考後的結論說成 what I've come up with，語氣像先賣個關子，再把複雜推理壓成一句簡單答案。
And what I've come up with is really simple.按自己的方式
on my own terms（按自己的方式）是她整段解釋的支點：不是被家庭、社會或朋友推著走，也不是為了反抗而反抗，而是自己定條件、自己承擔選擇。
I came to this on my own terms.那一類說法/事情
You know, I didn't just heed what I was taught: Men and women should be together, it's the natural way, that kind of thing.天經地義的做法
You know, I didn't just heed what I was taught: Men and women should be together, it's the natural way, that kind of thing.賓語從句：what I was taught 作 heed 的賓語，等於「我被教的那一套」。
You know, I didn't just heed what I was taught: Men and women should be together, it's the natural way, that kind of thing.didn't just 兩個 t 別咬死，留個短頓滑過去。
You know, I didn't just heed what I was taught: Men and women should be together, it's the natural way, that kind of thing.從一開始
她講家庭和社會怎樣把‘男女應該在一起’灌給她，from day one 把這種影響推到最早的時候，語氣不是抱怨，而是把來路說清楚。
tried to instill in me from day one.現實本來的樣子
The way the world is, how seldom it is that you meet that one person who...重音壓 seldom，it is 很輕，別逐詞念清。
The way the world is, how seldom it is that you meet that one person who...給我樹立的榜樣
There were no examples set for me in the world of male-female relationships.把自己與…隔絕
And to cut oneself off from flnding that person...把選擇砍掉一半
講選擇時，一句 halve your options（把選擇砍掉一半）把抽象的自我限制說成算術：每排除一種可能，機會就少一半。
to immediately halve your options by eliminating the possibility...愛上某人
And while I was falling for you I put a ceiling on that, because you were a guy.給某事設上限 這裡指限制自己動情的可能
And while I was falling for you I put a ceiling on that, because you were a guy.向某事敞開可能
Until I remembered why I opened the door to women in the flrst place: To not limit the likelihood of flnding that one person who'd...起初/原本
Until I remembered why I opened the door to women in the flrst place: To not limit the likelihood of flnding that one person who'd...與某人互補
complement me so completely.分詞短語：lying in your arms 說明她覺得理直氣壯的情境，不是進行時。
And I feel justifled lying in your arms...毫不懷疑
'cause I got here on my own terms, and I have no question there was someplace I didn't look.定語從句：someplace 後省略 that，I didn't look 修飾它，指沒找過的地方。
'cause I got here on my own terms, and I have no question there was someplace I didn't look.讓一切大不相同
make all the difference（讓一切大不相同）是整段解釋的收束：別人可能只看條件，她只看自己是不是按自己的方式走到這一步；這句話把前面所有理由壓成一個判斷。
For me that makes all the difference.makes all the 快說時黏在一起，重音留給 all。
For me that makes all the difference.看懂「親密後追問選擇理由」
發音重點
- got all wet — got all 快說時連成一串，t 輕碰 a 滑到 wet。
- didn't just — didn't just 兩個 t 別咬死，留個短頓滑過去。
- how seldom it is — 重音壓 seldom，it is 很輕，別逐詞念清。
- makes all the — makes all the 快說時黏在一起，重音留給 all。
I came to this on my own terms.我是按自己的方式走到這一步的。 把主動選擇壓進一個合同式短語，獨立、冷靜，又帶一點自嘲。
I was thorough when I looked for you.我找你的時候，可是找得很徹底。 把深情說成搜查式認真，既好笑又真誠，像在總結一場漫長尋找。
There were no examples set for me in the world of male-female relationships.在男女關係這件事上，沒有人給我樹立過榜樣。 承認缺失而不自憐，把家庭空缺說成一張沒有範本的地圖。
For me that makes all the difference.對我來說，這一點讓一切都不一樣。 短句收束整段長論證，把私人標準放在別人評價之上。
關於這一章的問題
on my own terms 是什麼意思？
意思是「按自己的方式」，指某個選擇不是被外界推著走，而是自己認下、自己走到這一步。臺詞裡說 I came to this on my own terms，就是「我是按自己的方式走到這一步的」。
「被排斥、被排擠」英語怎麼說？
用 ostracized。臺詞裡說 Now that I'm being ostracized by my friends，意思是朋友們都躲著、排斥自己。
put a ceiling on 在這裡是什麼意思？
是「給某事設上限」。臺詞裡說 falling for you（愛上你）的時候 put a ceiling on that，因為對方是男的，等於給這份感情劃了條界線。
from day one 怎麼理解？
就是「從一開始」。臺詞裡說那些觀念 tried to instill in me from day one，意思是家人、社會、生活從出生起就不斷把這些觀念灌輸給她。
make all the difference 是什麼意思？
意思是「讓一切大不相同」。臺詞末尾說 For me that makes all the difference，強調按自己的方式走到這一步，對說話的人意義完全不同。
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