这场戏：饭桌上坦白是同性恋
第 5 章 · 共 15 章 · 2'49"
饭桌上，母亲追问亚当有没有女朋友，还替他想象未来对象。亚当决定摊牌，not into girls（对女孩没兴趣）说出口，母亲却回 look gay（看起来像同性恋）；她嘴上说 okay with it（能接受、不介意），追问却一句接一句。想学饭桌上最难开口的那句坦白，这段的措辞很值得看。
You don't look gay：母亲说「你看着不像同性恋」
not into girls 对女孩没兴趣look gay 看起来像同性恋a bit surprised 有点意外not sure what that means 不明白那到底是什么意思
晚饭吃到一半，母亲盯着亚当的婚戒位置开始盘问：她 I'm presuming（我猜、我想是）他还没结婚，又把未来对象想成棕发、聪明。亚当沉默一阵，终于坦白自己没有女朋友，因为 not into girls（对女孩没兴趣），干脆说出 I'm gay。母亲有点意外，反复确认，还甩出一句 look gay（看起来像同性恋），说自己其实 okay with it（能接受、不介意）。话题转到别人会不会刻薄、要不要结婚生子，她甚至用 have your cake and eat it（两头都想占）来形容同性婚姻；亚当只说，很长一段时间里结婚生子 wasn't a possibility（根本不是一个选项）。想学怎么在饭桌上开口，也学怎么接住父母的追问，这段很典型。
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“What parent wants to think that about their child?”
哪个当父母的愿意这样想自己的孩子？
一句反问把父母的爱与逃避叠在一起，谁都答不上来。
What X wants to think that about Y
替被误解的人发声时用，语气很重，别拿来质问长辈。
What kind of parent thinks that about their kid? ／ Who would want to think that of their own child?
中性
重读 parent 和 child，句尾降调。
What teacher wants to think that about a student? 哪个老师愿意这样想自己的学生？
“Well, bet you're glad you don't know the neighbors now.”
我打赌，你现在该庆幸不认识邻居了吧。
一句玩笑把难堪推给不存在的邻居，自嘲又护住自己。
bet you're glad + 从句
想用玩笑化解尴尬时说，熟人间可以，别对较真的人用。
I bet you're happy you never met them. ／ Guess you're glad you don't know the neighbours.
口语
glad you 连读，句尾 now 轻轻挑起。
Bet you're glad you don't know the neighbours yet. 你大概庆幸还不认识邻居吧。
“Well, isn't that like having your cake and eating it?”
那不就是既想有蛋糕、又要把蛋糕吃掉吗？
用一句老谚语反问，把「凭什么都想要」说得俏皮不伤人。
isn't that like having your cake and eating it
调侃别人两头都想要时用，语气轻松，别用在严肃争论里。
You can't have it both ways. ／ That's wanting your cake and eating it.
口语
cake and 连读，句尾升调问回去。
He wants a discount and free delivery. Isn't that like having your cake and eating it? 他既想要折扣又要免运费，这不是两头都想占吗？
“So, I didn't think it was worth the effort of wanting to get married and have kids.”
所以我没觉得，值得费那个劲去想要结婚、要孩子。
把「不敢想」说成「不值得想」，一句道尽长期被排除在正常人生之外的心酸。
it's not worth the effort of doing something
说明自己为什么没去争取某件事时用；对长辈诉苦可以，正式报告里不合适。
I didn't think it was worth wanting. ／ It never felt worth the effort of hoping.
中性
didn't think 弱读，worth the effort 重音落在 ef-fort。
For years I didn't think it was worth the effort of aiming for a promotion. 这么多年我都没觉得，值得费劲去争取升职。
下一章 · 06wouldn't know about that那方面我可说不好这场戏：母子忆旧又担心他孤独字面是「既想留着蛋糕又想吃掉」，意思是「两头的好处都想占」。戏里母亲用它形容同性婚姻，觉得对方既想结婚又不想受传统约束。
可以说 not into girls。into 表示「对…有兴趣、喜欢」，否定就是 not into，比如 I'm not into girls。
不一定。字面是「看着像同性恋」，可以当玩笑也可以是偏见；戏里母亲用它暴露自己对同性恋的刻板印象。
是「能接受、不介意」，比 I agree 轻得多，表示虽然谈不上欢迎，但不会反对。父母表态接受时常这么说。
意思是「根本不是一个选项」，指某件事在过去根本没得选。亚当用它解释为什么自己从没奢望结婚生子。
