on a moment's notice说走就走

When Joe and I started seeing each other, we wanted exactly the same thing. We wanted to live together but not get married... because every time anyone we knew got married, it ruined their relationship. They practically never had sex again. It's true. It's one of the secrets that no one ever tells you. I would sit around with my girlfriends who have kids... Actually, my one girlfriend who has kids... Alice. She would complain how she and Gary never did it anymore. She didn't even complain about it. She just said it matter-of-factly. She said they were up all night, they were both exhausted all the time... the kids just took every sexual impulse they had out of them. Joe and I used to say we're so lucky. We have this wonderful relationship. We can have sex on the kitchen floor and not worry about the kids walking in. We can fly off to Rome on a moment's notice. Then one day I was taking Alice's little girl for the afternoon... because I promised to take her to the circus. And we were in the cab playing "I Spy." "I spy a mailbox. I spy a lamp post." And she looked out the window and saw this man and this woman... with these two little kids... and the man had one of the kids on his shoulders. And she said, "I spy a family." And I started to cry.

乔和我刚开始交往的时候，我们想要的东西完全一样。 我们想住在一起，但不结婚…… 因为我们认识的人里，只要一结婚，感情就毁了。 他们几乎再也不做爱了。 这是真的。 这就是没人会告诉你的秘密之一。 我常跟那些有孩子的女性朋友坐在一起…… 其实，我就那一个生了孩子的朋友……爱丽丝。 她会抱怨她和加里再也不做了。 她甚至都不算抱怨，只是平平淡淡地说出来。 她说他们整晚都睡不成，两个人都一直累得不行…… 孩子把他们那点性冲动全给耗光了。 乔和我以前总说我们多幸运。 我们的感情多美好。 我们可以在厨房地板上做爱，不用担心孩子走进来。 我们可以说走就走，飞去罗马。 后来有一天，我下午带着爱丽丝的小女儿…… 因为我答应带她去看马戏。 我们在出租车里玩「我看见了」。 “我看见了邮筒。我看见了路灯。” 她往窗外看，看到一男一女…… 带着两个小孩…… 那个男人把一个孩子扛在肩上。 她说：“我看见了……一个家。” 我就哭了。