这场戏：聊怎样不怕被拒绝
第 20 章 · 共 22 章 · 2'47"
刚旅行回来的女人说自己 the happiest I've been in a long time（这么久以来最开心的时候），还宣布 I've conquered the fear of rejection（我已经克服了对被拒绝的恐惧）。对方却泼冷水：没人逃得开，人总是这样那样地 enslave ourselves（把自己变成奴隶），所以 You can always be thrown on the scrap heap（你随时可能被扔进废料堆）。
❝ 独白 · 9 句 「我好久没这么开心」：in a long time（很久以来）
the furthest thing from my mind 压根没想过、离我最远的事things are rolling 一切顺起来了、渐入佳境in a long time 很久以来、许久没有过a whole person 觉得自己又完整了
❝ 独白 · 7 句 「我已经不怕被拒」：conquered the fear of rejection（克服对被拒绝的恐惧）
conquered the fear of 克服对……的恐惧trade-off 权衡、取舍、有得必有失buy that 信这套、接受这个说法scrap heap 废料堆、被淘汰的下场
刚旅行回来的女人聊自己的状态：她刚结束一段 two-year relationship（两年的感情），a boyfriend is the furthest thing from my mind（交男朋友这事压根没想过），回来后 things are rolling（一切都在走上正轨）。她说 I'm the happiest I've been in a long time（这是这么久以来最开心的），还宣布 I've conquered the fear of rejection（我已经克服了对被拒绝的恐惧），把它当 a trade-off（一种权衡）。对方不买账：I don't know if I buy that（我不确定我信不信这套），被拒绝的恐惧是 a real primal thing（很原始的东西），人总在 enslave ourselves（把自己变成奴隶），所以 You can always be thrown on the scrap heap（你随时可能被扔进废料堆）。最后朋友来约大家去看乐队，说有 guest list（嘉宾名单）和 van（面包车）。
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“I think I can honestly say I'm the happiest I've been in a long time.”
我觉得我可以老实说，这是我这么久以来最开心的时候。
老实说三个字一垫，把自我感觉良好说得坦荡又有节制。
I can honestly say ...
想郑重地说出真实感受时用；对上司或客户说会显得太私人。
Honestly, I have never felt better. ／ I can say in all honesty that this is my best year.
中性
honestly say 连读，happiest 重音在首音节。
I can honestly say I've never slept better. 我可以老实说，我从没睡过这么好的觉。
“I've conquered the fear of rejection.”
我已经克服了对被拒绝的恐惧。
用征服一词把心理变化说成一场胜仗，自信得有点好笑。
I've conquered the fear of ...
宣布自己战胜某种恐惧时用；在别人正难受时说会显得自满。
I have finally gotten over my fear of rejection. ／ I am no longer afraid of being turned down.
中性
conquered the 连读，rejection 重音在第二音节。
I've conquered the fear of speaking in public. 我已经克服了当众讲话的恐惧。
“Just be prepared. You can always be thrown on the scrap heap.”
只是你得有准备。你随时可能被扔进废料堆。
用废料堆比喻被抛弃，泼冷水也泼得漂亮。
You can always be ...
提醒朋友别太乐观时用；在人家高兴时说会被当成扫兴。
Just be ready to be dropped at any time. ／ You could be discarded without warning.
中性
be prepared 连读，scrap heap 两个重音。
Enjoy the job, but you can always be replaced. 好好干这份工作，但你随时可能被换掉。
“We're always trying to enslave ourselves one way or another.”
我们总是这样或那样地把自己变成奴隶。
一句冷眼旁观，把事业、感情、孩子都归成同一种自我束缚。
We're always trying to enslave ourselves one way or another.
深聊人生、反思自己给自己上枷锁时能用；对刚升职或怀孕的人说会扫兴，别用。
We always find a new way to tie ourselves down. ／ One way or another, we chain ourselves.
中性
always trying to 连读，enslave 重音在后，one way or another 节奏均匀。
We're always trying to enslave ourselves to some new schedule. 我们总是想把自己绑在某个新的时间表上。
A lot of times I leave a relationship and I feel like a whole person again. And I feel really elated. It seems then this ebb and flow thing sets in. And I start questioning everything, you know. And as long as I'm in a relationship, I swear I cannot be objective. It seems like after we've decided that we need one another to be happy... then I start getting insecure. I'm wondering, worrying all the time. It seems like rejection looms, ever-present.
很多时候我离开一段感情，就觉得自己又是个完整的人了。 我感觉特别高兴。 接着那种潮起潮落就来了。 我就开始怀疑一切，你知道。 只要我在一段感情里，我发誓我就没法客观。 好像一旦我们认定彼此需要才能幸福…… 我就开始没有安全感。 我整天猜疑、担心。 好像被拒绝的阴影随时压过来。
It's a real primal thing, you know. Can it be escap - Perhaps human beings weren't made to be happy and free all the time. We're always trying to enslave ourselves one way or another. If it's not through career, it's through a relationship or it's through kids. It just doesn't seem to be the natural human state. We go through a good phase, then we regress, you know. I mean, I'm really glad you're happy. Just be prepared. You can always be thrown on the scrap heap.
那是很原始的东西，你知道。它能被消——也许人本来就不是为了永远快乐自由而生的。 我们总是这样那样地把自己变成奴隶。 不是通过事业，就是通过感情，或者通过孩子。 这似乎就不是人类自然的状态。 我们会经历一段好日子，然后又退回去，你知道。 我是说，我真的很高兴你开心。 只是你得有准备。你随时可能被扔进废料堆。
下一章 · 21take it out on拿别人撒气这场戏：坚信猫王还活着指潮起潮落、起起伏伏，形容状态来回变化。原句 this ebb and flow thing sets in，就是「那种潮起潮落就来了」。
指权衡、取舍，有得必有失。原句 I kind of look at it as a trade-off，就是「我把它看成一种权衡」。
口语里指信这套、接受这个说法。原句 I don't know if I buy that，就是「我不确定我信不信这套」。
指废料堆，引申为被淘汰、被抛弃的下场。原句 thrown on the scrap heap，就是「被扔进废料堆」。
the furthest thing from my mind。原句就是「交男朋友这事我压根没想过」，形容某件事完全不在考虑范围内。
guest list。原句 put me on the guest list，就是「把我加进嘉宾名单」，演出、派对免票入场时常用。
