你呢；你怎么样
So how about you?Before Sunrise · 1995 — 第 13 / 20 章 · 2'41" · B2
坦白马德里失恋：let it sink in
旅途中有人问 So how about you?（那你呢？），被问的人没直接答，先讲起马德里：攒钱飞过去，前女友却想尽办法 avoid being alone with me（避免和我独处），他多待了一阵，让这件事 let it sink in（慢慢消化）。聊旧感情、讲自己怎么熬过来，这两句都用得上。
发生了什么
旅途中，一人问 So how about you?（那你呢？），被问的一方先说爱情是两个不会独处的人的逃避，仔细想想没有比这更自私的。对方回了一句 You sound like you've just been hurt（听起来像刚受过伤），他才坦白：自己 save up（攒钱）一整个春天飞去马德里，前女友却想尽办法 avoid being alone with me（避免和我独处）。他多待了一阵，让这件事 let it sink in（慢慢消化）。想聊旧感情、讲失恋经历时，这几个说法都能用。
这场戏看什么
- 留意先绕后坦白的话术变化
- 注意自嘲如何把尴尬变笑点
- 听心理医生段如何转向黑色幽默
留意这几个短语
avoid being alone withlet it sink insave upsound like
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let it sink in
慢慢消化；让人真正意识到take in the full weight of something
讲述者说自己没有马上离开马德里，而是多待了一阵，为的是让「她希望我没来」这件事 let it sink in，也就是真正沉到心里。
Give me a day to let it sink in.给我一天时间，让我消化一下这个消息。
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- avoid being alone with
避免和某人独处
- save up
攒钱
- sound like
听起来像
- how little
（某事）有多么少
- shift my obsession
转移执念
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about 的 t 快说时轻轻带过，直接滑向 you
So how about you?在跟某人交往 这里不是问身边有没有人，而是问是否在恋爱。
- What? - Are you with anyone?回避这个话题
Um — It's funny how we managed to avoid this subject for so long.如何独处
Well, I kind of see love as this escape for two people who don't know how to be alone, you know?定语从句：who 从句修饰 two people，说明是哪两种人：不会独处的人。
Well, I kind of see love as this escape for two people who don't know how to be alone, you know?谈论……如何
People always talk about how love is this totally unselfish, giving thing.介词宾语从句：about 后接 how 从句，整块作宾语，说明人们谈论的内容。
People always talk about how love is this totally unselfish, giving thing.仔细想想
But if you think about it, there's nothing more selfish.没有比这更自私的
But if you think about it, there's nothing more selfish.跟某人分手
So, who just broke up with you?听起来像
对方听完那段话，回了一句 You sound like you've just been hurt or something，用 sound like 点出他听起来像刚受过伤。
You sound like you've just been hurt or something.you've 夹在 like 和 just 之间，轻短带过
You sound like you've just been hurt or something.闲逛；消磨时间 这里不是把东西挂出去，而是闲逛、消磨时间。
I didn't come to Europe just to hang out and read Hemingway in Paris and shit like that, you know.之类的破事——熟人吐槽可用，正式场合和陌生人面前别用
I didn't come to Europe just to hang out and read Hemingway in Paris and shit like that, you know.和某人一起过夏天
fly to Madrid and spend the summer with my girlfriend who has been — - Your girlfriend? - My ex-girlfriend.终于
and we were reunited at long last, and we went out to dinner our first night with six of her friends — Pedro, Antonio,设法避开
She pretty much managed to avoid being alone with me for the first couple of days,逗留；没走 不是被粘住，而是留在原地没走。
and I stuck around for a while just to kinda let it really sink in that she wished I hadn't come.let it 两个词几乎黏在一起，t 在元音间轻轻弹一下
and I stuck around for a while just to kinda let it really sink in that she wished I hadn't come.有点儿——口语里软化语气，写作和正式发言别用
and I stuck around for a while just to kinda let it really sink in that she wished I hadn't come.……最糟的地方
You know what's the worst thing about somebody breaking up with you?宾语从句：realize 后第一个 that 引导宾语从句，第二个 that 指前文事实；how little 再套一层。
with and you realize that that is how little they're thinking about you.沉浸在痛苦中
You'd like to think that you're both in all this pain, but really, they're心理医生——熟人聊治疗时用，正式介绍或病历里别用
That's what the shrink told me, you know?专注于亮色
I was paying her 900 francs an hour to hear that I was a homicidal maniac, but I could perhaps shift my obsession if I would concentrate on bright colors.转移执念
讲述者转述心理医生的话：如果能专注看鲜艳的颜色，说不定能把那股执念 shift my obsession，也就是挪个方向。
I was paying her 900 francs an hour to hear that I was a homicidal maniac, but I could perhaps shift my obsession if I would concentrate on bright colors.看懂「坦白马德里失恋」
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- how about you — about 的 t 快说时轻轻带过，直接滑向 you
- like you've — you've 夹在 like 和 just 之间，轻短带过
- let it — let it 两个词几乎黏在一起，t 在元音间轻轻弹一下
Well, I kind of see love as this escape for two people who don't know how to be alone, you know?嗯，我有点把爱情看成两个不会独处的人的逃避，你懂吗？ 把爱情从浪漫拉回孤独，kind of 让断言变软，像自我说服。
But if you think about it, there's nothing more selfish.但你要是仔细想想，没有比这更自私的了。 用 if you think about it 拉人入局，再甩出 nothing more selfish，短促有力。
and I stuck around for a while just to kinda let it really sink in that she wished I hadn't come.我还多待了一阵，就为了让‘她巴不得我没来’这件事慢慢沉进心里。 用 stuck around 和 sink in 写自虐式清醒，越平静越扎心。
You know what's the worst thing about somebody breaking up with you?你知道被人分手最糟的是什么吗？ 先问再答，把私人经验变成可共享的洞察，听者很难不接话。
I was paying her 900 francs an hour to hear that I was a homicidal maniac, but I could perhaps shift my obsession if I would concentrate on bright colors.我每小时付她九百法郎，就为了听她说我是杀人狂，不过要是我多盯着亮色看，也许能转移执念。 把心理治疗写成荒诞交易，价钱、诊断、亮色并置，冷面笑匠。
关于这一章的问题
let it sink in 是什么意思？
意思是让一件事慢慢被自己消化、真正意识到。戏里说他多待了一阵，就是为了让「她希望我没来」这件事慢慢沉到心里。
「避免和某人独处」英语怎么说？
可以说 avoid being alone with someone，意思是「避免和某人独处」。戏里说前女友头几天一直 avoid being alone with me，就是躲着不跟他单独待在一起。
sound like 和 look like 有什么区别？
sound like 是「听起来像」，靠对方说的话或语气判断；look like 是「看起来像」，靠眼睛看。戏里 You sound like you've just been hurt or something 就是听口气判断对方像刚受过伤。
how little they're thinking about you 这句结构怎么理解？
how little 是「（某事）有多么少」，后面跟从句，这里接 they're thinking about you，合起来就是「他们有多么不在意你」，不是问数量。
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