忍不住做某事
I can't help but feeling for all those people that come here, lost or in pain, guilt,Before Sunrise · 1995 — 第 9 / 20 章 · 2'11" · B2
教堂里聊生死与贵格会婚礼：dress rehearsal
古老教堂里，谈话从宗教聊到生死：一句 can't help but feel for（忍不住同情）说的是对来教堂寻找答案的人仍会心疼；后来成年生活又被比作 dress rehearsal（彩排），像初中话剧还没正式开演。想表达控制不住的心疼，或自嘲还没真正长大，这两句都能用。
发生了什么
古老教堂里，谈话从宗教聊到生死。一句 can't help but feel for（忍不住同情）说的是对来教堂寻找答案的人仍会心疼：他们迷失、痛苦、心里有愧，都在寻找某种答案。接着一句 You close with your grandmother?（你和你奶奶亲近吗）把话题转向家人，口语里省掉了开头的 Are。后来成年生活被比作 dress rehearsal（彩排）：像初中话剧还没正式开演，说话人觉得自己只是在记笔记、等真正的生活开始。想说对某些人忍不住同情，可以用 can't help but feel for；想自嘲还没真正长大，就说 dress rehearsal。
这场戏看什么
- 留意教堂话题转向死亡时的语气
- 注意贵格会婚礼描述的动作顺序
- 比较短回应 That's so wild 的温度
留意这几个短语
can't help but feel forclose withthat's so wildlook for answers
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dress rehearsal
彩排a full practice before the real performance
说话人把成年生活比作初中话剧的 dress rehearsal，觉得自己只是在为真正要过的生活先做准备；语气自嘲，不是真的在剧场。
Planning my first big presentation feels like a dress rehearsal for a play I barely know.筹备第一次大型演讲，感觉像是在排一场我几乎不懂的戏。
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- can't help but feel for
忍不住同情
- close with
与某人亲近
- that's so wild
太离谱了
- look for answers
寻找答案
- congregation
全体会众
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25 句台词里标了 24 处
同情、心疼某人 不是用手摸，而是替对方难过。
I can't help but feeling for all those people that come here, lost or in pain, guilt,处在痛苦中
I can't help but feeling for all those people that come here, lost or in pain, guilt,定语从句：that come here 修饰 people，说明是哪群人；后面 lost or in pain 补充状态。
I can't help but feeling for all those people that come here, lost or in pain, guilt,can't help but 快说时挤成一串，but 的 t 别砸重。
I can't help but feeling for all those people that come here, lost or in pain, guilt,寻找答案
教堂里，说话的人同情那些来这里的人；紧接着一句 looking for some kind of answers 说的是他们都在寻找答案，look for answers 就是「寻找答案」。
looking for some kind of answers.how 从句：it 是形式主语，真正让说话人着迷的是 how 引出的整件事。
It fascinates me how a single place can join so much pain and happiness for so many generations.与某人亲近
前面有人提到和奶奶去过一座古老的教堂，随后一句 You close with your grandmother? 问的是「你和你奶奶亲近吗」；这是 Are you close with...? 的口语省略，省掉了开头的 Are。
You close with your grandmother?有种奇怪的感觉
I think it's because I always have this strange feeling that I'm this very old woman, laying down, about to die.即将做某事
I think it's because I always have this strange feeling that I'm this very old woman, laying down, about to die.about to 常黏成 /əˈbaʊtə/，舌尖的 t 只轻弹一下，气直接顺到 die。
I think it's because I always have this strange feeling that I'm this very old woman, laying down, about to die.……之类的东西
You know, that my life is just memories or something.太惊人了——朋友间表达惊讶，正式场合改用 surprising。
That's so wild.知道怎样做某事
I mean, I always think that I'm still this 13-year-old boy who doesn't really know how to be an adult, pretending to live my life,现在分词短语：pretending... 说明他一边生活一边假装，动作与主句同时发生。
I mean, I always think that I'm still this 13-year-old boy who doesn't really know how to be an adult, pretending to live my life,做笔记；记下来
taking notes for when I'll really have to do it.彩排
说话人把成年生活比作初中话剧的 dress rehearsal，觉得自己只是在为真正要过的生活先做准备；语气自嘲，不是真的在剧场。
Kind of like I'm in a dress rehearsal for a junior high play.kind of 口语里缩得很短，of 很轻，别逐字读满。
Kind of like I'm in a dress rehearsal for a junior high play.有点像——熟人聊天缓和语气，正式写作改用 somewhat。
Kind of like I'm in a dress rehearsal for a junior high play.对某事有所了解
Do you know anything about the Quakers — the Quaker religion?跪下
What they do is the couple comes in and they kneel down in front of the whole congregation,盯着某人看
and they just stare at each other.促使某人做某事
描述贵格会婚礼时，沉默是常态；只有感到上帝在心里推动，人才会开口，move someone to do something 在这里就是「促使某人做某事」。
And nobody says a word unless they feel that God moves them to speak or say something.条件从句：unless 引出唯一例外：除非感到上帝推动，否则没人开口。
And nobody says a word unless they feel that God moves them to speak or say something.看懂「教堂里聊生死与贵格会婚礼」
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- can't help but — can't help but 快说时挤成一串，but 的 t 别砸重。
- about to — about to 常黏成 /əˈbaʊtə/，舌尖的 t 只轻弹一下，气直接顺到 die。
- Kind of — kind of 口语里缩得很短，of 很轻，别逐字读满。
It fascinates me how a single place can join so much pain and happiness for so many generations.让我着迷的是，同一个地方竟能为这么多代人承载如此多的痛苦与幸福。 把空间与时间用 join 拉在一起，pain 和 happiness 对照有力。
I think it's because I always have this strange feeling that I'm this very old woman, laying down, about to die.我想是因为我总有一种奇怪的感觉：自己是个躺在床上、即将死去的老妇人。 用错位的自我想象，把死亡恐惧说成日常感受。
Kind of like I'm in a dress rehearsal for a junior high play.有点像我在为一场初中话剧做彩排。 把成年生活比作没开演的彩排，自嘲又准确。
And nobody says a word unless they feel that God moves them to speak or say something.没有人说一句话，除非他们觉得上帝感动他们开口说些什么。 unless 把沉默变规矩，把开口变成被推动的例外。
And then after an hour or so of just, uh, staring at each other, they're married.然后，在只是那样对视了大约一个小时之后，他们就结婚了。 漫长沉默被一句带过，they're married 收得干脆。
关于这一章的问题
「忍不住同情他们」英语怎么说？
can't help but feel for them。台词里是 I can't help but feeling for all those people，属于口语混用，意思就是忍不住同情这些人。
dress rehearsal 是什么意思？
本义是正式演出前的带妆彩排。台词里说成年生活像初中话剧的 dress rehearsal，意思是觉得自己还在排练，真正的生活还没开始。
You close with your grandmother? 省掉了什么？
完整说法是 Are you close with your grandmother?，口语里省掉了开头的 Are。close with 是「与某人亲近」，问的是感情上亲不亲近。
that's so wild 在这里是什么意思？
对方刚讲完自己总觉得像个快死的老妇人，一句 that's so wild 就是「太离谱了、太不可思议了」，回应的是这种怪异感受。
congregation 指的是什么？
指教堂礼拜或婚礼上到场的全体会众。台词里新人在 the whole congregation 面前跪下，就是在全体会众面前跪下。
「促使某人做某事」英语怎么说？
move someone to do something。台词里说没人开口，除非觉得上帝 moves them to speak，就是感到被促使开口。
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