这场戏：聊亡妻怪癖劝小子
第 9 章 · 共 21 章 · 3'53"
威尔刚跟漂亮姑娘约过一次，却不敢再打给她，怕一接近就发现对方没那么好。尚恩直接 save someone the suspense（直接告诉你结果）：你不完美，她也不完美，关键是你们合不合适。他还补一句，想知道答案只能 givin' it a shot（亲自试一把）。想劝人别怕失败、勇敢试一次，这两句正合适。
❝ 独白 · 22 句 一句 had the goods on me（抓住某人的把柄）
had the goods on me 抓住某人的把柄imperfections 缺点、不完美之处let into 让某人进入
威尔跟一个又聪明又有趣的姑娘约会后，迟迟不肯再联系，理由是对方现在「太完美」，他怕一走近就毁掉。尚恩先用 save someone the suspense（直接告诉你结果）点破：你不完美，那个姑娘也不完美。他拿自己过世妻子的种种怪癖举例，说人们把这些叫 imperfections（缺点），其实那才是好东西，因为正是这些让我们彼此选择。想知道两个人合不合适，只能 by givin' it a shot（亲自试一把）。save someone the suspense 适合不想绕弯子、先把结论告诉你的时候，imperfections 用来形容人无伤大雅的小毛病，givin' it a shot 就是劝人放手试一次。
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“My wife used to fart when she was nervous.”
我妻子以前一紧张就放屁。
用最难启齿的小事讲爱，一下把深情说得很真。
used to ... when ...
回忆逝去或过去的人时用；初次见面别拿这类私事开玩笑。
She would always laugh at her own jokes. ／ He used to hum when he was nervous.
口语
used to 连读成 yoos-ta，nervous 句尾降调。
My grandfather used to sing when he was nervous. 我爷爷以前一紧张就唱歌。
“People call these things imperfections, but they're not.”
人们把这些叫缺点，可它们不是。
一句反驳把大众的判断翻过来，替小毛病正名。
People call these things ..., but they're not.
替某种被误解的东西辩护时用；正式文章里少用这么口语的反驳。
Everyone calls it a flaw, but it isn't one. ／ They look like weaknesses, but they are not.
中性
imperfections 重读，but they're not 短促收。
People call these quirks odd, but they're not. 人们把这些习惯叫怪，可它们不怪。
“but the only way you're findin' out that one is by givin' it a shot.”
但这一件事，你只有亲自试一把才能知道。
把抽象的亲密问题落到一句可执行的话上，干脆有力。
The only way you're finding out is by doing it.
鼓励犹豫的人迈出第一步时用；对已经受伤的人别催。
The only way to know is to try it. ／ You'll only learn that by giving it a go.
口语
only way 重读，findin' out 连读，shot 收尾利落。
The only way you're finding out is by giving it a shot. 这事你只有试一把才能知道。
“And then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds.”
然后，由我们自己决定让谁走进我们那个古怪的小世界。
把亲密关系说成挑选访客，温柔又通透。
we get to choose who we let into ...
聊感情和边界时能用，对朋友恋人都合适，别拿来说教别人。
We decide who gets close to us. ／ You choose who you let in.
中性
get to 弱读成 get-ta，who we let into 连读，weird little worlds 重读。
We get to choose who we let into our quiet little lives. 谁走进我们安静的小日子，由我们自己选。
My wife used to fart when she was nervous. She had all sorts of wonderful idiosyncrasies. You know, she used to fart in her sleep. Sorry I shared that with you. And one night it was so loud, it woke the dog up. She woke up and gone like, "Was that you?" I said, "Yeah. " I didn't have the heart to tell her. Oh, God. - She woke herself up? - Yes. Oh, Christ. Ah, but, Will, she's been dead two years and that's the shit I remember. It's wonderful stuff, you know? Little things like that. Yeah, but those are the things I miss the most. The little idiosyncrasies that only I knew about. That's what made her my wife. Boy, and she had the goods on me, too. She knew all my little peccadillos. People call these things imperfections, but they're not. Oh, that's the good stuff. And then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds. You're not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn't perfect either. But the question is whether or not you're perfect for each other. That's the whole deal. That's what intimacy is all about.
我妻子以前一紧张就放屁。 她身上有各种各样可爱的怪癖。 你知道，她睡觉时也放屁。 抱歉跟你说这些。 有天晚上那声儿太响，把狗都吵醒了。 她醒了，说：“是你吗？” 我说：“是我。”我不忍心告诉她。哦，天哪。 ——她自己把自己吵醒了？——对。 哦，老天。唉，可威尔，她都走了两年了，我记着的就是这些破事。 可这些多美好啊，你懂吗？就是这种小事。 是啊，可这些正是我最想念的。 那些只有我才知道的小怪癖。 正是这些让她成了我的妻子。 天哪，她也把我的底细摸得一清二楚。我那些小毛病她全知道。 人们把这些叫缺点，可它们不是。 哦，那才是好东西。 然后我们才有权选择，让谁走进我们那点古怪的小世界。 你不完美，小子。 我替你省了这份悬念吧。 你遇到的这个姑娘，她也不完美。 问题在于，你们俩是不是彼此合适。 就这么回事。亲密关系说的就是这个。
下一章 · 10another crack at it再给一次机会这场戏：道歉后再约看赛狗就是「替你省掉悬念、直接告诉你结果」。戏里尚恩说 let me save you the suspense，意思是别猜了，我直接说：没有完美的人。
可以说 give it a shot，口语里常写成 givin' it a shot。想知道两个人合不合适，the only way is by givin' it a shot，就是只能亲自试一试。
字面是「不完美、缺点」，但戏里带褒义：那些小怪癖、小毛病才是让人记住你的东西，尚恩说 people call these things imperfections, but they're not。
多半是反讽，等于「那你可真了不起」，语气带点不以为然。朋友之间开玩笑、拌嘴时很常见，正经场合别用。
call someone up 就是「给某人打电话」，更口语、更随意；call up 还有「征召、召集」的意思，看语境分辨。
