Chapter 7 of 15 · 2'43"
Lunch After the Split 午餐谈单身IMDb ↗
把拆伙说成拔牙
Husbands and Wives · 1992
CEFR C1IELTS 7.5RestaurantIdentity雅思
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The story so far
Everything you need before watchingSally has just left Jack. At lunch she announces she likes being single. Judy is unconvinced: she had the opposite impression. Sally calls the dread anticipatory anxiety, then compares divorce to yanking a bad tooth. Then she turns on Judy: that angry night, she says, they touched a nerve, because Sally did what Judy secretly wants. Before Judy can finish denying it, Sally already has Michael Gates in mind.
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Sallyrecently split wife
朱
JudyGabe's wife
Chapters
15 parts · AI-cut01Friends Announce a Split当朋友轻松宣布拆伙C13'49"02A Late-Night Marriage Talk当拆伙消息烧到自己家C13'21"03A Date Interrupted当约会变成对前段的质问B24'12"04Praising a Student Story当夸奖让人脸红心跳C12'46"05Kamikaze Women Theory当危险的人反而让你上瘾C13'02"06Meeting the New Girlfriend当朋友的新欢让你说不出话B24'35"07Lunch After the Split把拆伙说成拔牙C12'43"08A Walk About Writing当夸人变成一场暧昧散步C13'14"09Too Fast After the Date当约会很甜你却突然喊停C13'57"10Meeting the Parents当见家长变成一部连续剧B23'48"11Astrology Blowup当聚会上被当众拖走有多难堪C14'37"12He Wants to Come Back当前夫醉闯旧家还想复合B24'08"13The Novel Gets Critiqued当崇拜突然变成一场文学审判C13'27"14The Marriage Is Over当回忆已救不回这段关系C13'56"15Birthday in a Blackout当停电把生日变成暧昧时刻B22'48"
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00:00
Sally made a surprising announcement.
莎莉宣布了一件出人意料的事。
00:02
I like being single.
我喜欢单身。
00:05
You do ? I had the opposite impression .
是吗？我的印象正好相反。
00:08
Well, that's all anticipatory anxiety .
唉，那都是事前的焦虑罢了。
00:11
When you calm down , you realize it's not as bad as you fantasized.
等你冷静下来，就会发现根本没你幻想的那么糟。
00:15
It's like pulling a bad tooth.
就像拔掉一颗坏牙。
00:17
All the festering wounds of your marriage, the disappointments, the resentments, they're gone in one clean yank , and you're free.
婚姻里那些化脓的伤口、失望、怨恨，一下子全拽干净了，你就自由了。
00:26
- Boy ! - You can't imagine.
- 天哪！ - 你想象不出来。
00:28
After years of accumulating problems and swallowing one's anger , to have the chance to begin again .
问题积了那么多年，怒火一直往肚里咽，终于有机会重新开始。
00:35
Yeah, I-I can imagine.
是啊，我……我能想象。
00:37
The clock ticks faster for a woman.
对女人来说，时钟走得更快。
00:39
You have to do it while you still have some allure left.
得趁自己还有几分魅力的时候动手。
00:43
The one advantage of being a little older - is you have a lot of experience. - Yeah.
年纪稍长的一个好处——就是经验多了。 - 没错。
00:49
I have a much better shot at making things work out ... if I meet someone.
要是再遇上人，我把关系经营好的把握大多了。
00:54
I've often thought that if Gabe and I met now, knowing all the things we know, we'd have a better relationship , no question.
我常想，要是盖布和我现在才认识，以我们现在懂的这些，关系绝对会更好，这没问题。
01:02
Would you still marry him?
你还会嫁给他吗？
01:05
God, what a question!
天啊，这叫什么问题！
01:11
You know, for me, I just... the thought of breaking up is just so painful.
你知道，对我来说，我就是……一想到分手就难受得不行。
01:17
You can't stay together out of fear , because then you know what you become ?
你不能因为害怕才凑在一起，否则你知道会变成什么样吗？
01:21
- What? - My mother and father.
- 什么样？ - 我爸我妈那样。
01:25
Well, I... I've pictured myself free.
嗯，我……我想象过自己自由的样子。
01:30
I know you have.
我知道你想过。
01:34
How do you know?
你怎么知道？
01:36
Because you got so angry that night when Jack and I said we were splitting .
因为那天晚上杰克和我说要散的时候，你气成那样。
01:41
I thought about it later. I realized we must have touched a nerve .
后来我想了想，才明白我们一定是戳到你的痛处了。
01:45
- No. - Yes, it's like Hamlet and Oedipus.
- 没有。 - 有的，就像哈姆雷特和俄狄浦斯。
01:49
You were angry that night because I did what you really want to do.
你那天晚上生气，是因为我做了你其实很想做的事。
01:53
No, you're overdramatizing.
没有，你太夸张了。
01:56
Gabe and I are okay. Nobody has it perfect.
盖布和我挺好的。谁的日子都不可能十全十美。
02:00
I know. I know.
我知道。我知道。
02:03
Listen, when it's good, nothing's better. Hmm.
听着，好的时候，什么也比不上。嗯。
02:06
Listen, so I think maybe I have a possibility for you .
听着，所以我想也许有个人选可以介绍给你。
02:10
- Tell me. - Michael Gates?
- 快说。 - 迈克尔·盖茨？
02:13
The one you said was attractive in your office?
就是你说办公室里那个挺有魅力的？
02:15
Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
嗯哼，嗯哼。
02:16
He's only been there a few months.
他才来几个月。
02:19
I know he had a girlfriend, but now they've broken up.
我知道他以前有女朋友，不过现在分了。
02:22
I do think he's attractive. He's-He's-He's charming . He's bright.
我确实觉得他有魅力。他……他……他很迷人。人也聪明。
02:26
The timing's perfect . What more could you want?
时机正好。你还想要什么？
02:29
I just think if you'd come up to the office now and meet him and see how you feel...
我就是想，要是你现在来一趟办公室见见他，看看自己什么感觉……
02:35
If you think you're interested, we could all, I don't know, arrange something.
要是你觉得有意思，我们大家可以，我也不知道，安排点什么。
02:39
We'll all go out together or something.
我们一起出去吃个饭之类的。
02:41
Michael, this is my friend Sally.
迈克尔，这是我朋友莎莉。
Language points
Click a card to jump to its moment in the videoCollocationB1↩ 00:05
the opposite impression
the opposite impression
完全相反的印象
You do ? I had the opposite impression .
是吗？我的印象正好相反。
Pronunciation↩ 00:05
You do
do 重读上扬，表惊讶反问
You do ? I had the opposite impression .
是吗？我的印象正好相反。
CollocationC1↩ 00:08
anticipatory anxiety
anticipatory anxiety
事前就会涌上来的焦虑
Well, that's all anticipatory anxiety .
唉，那都是事前的焦虑罢了。
Pronunciation↩ 00:08
that's all anticipatory
that's 弱成 /ðəts/，重音在 anticipatory
Well, that's all anticipatory anxiety .
唉，那都是事前的焦虑罢了。
CollocationA2↩ 00:11
calm down
calm down
冷静下来
When you calm down , you realize it's not as bad as you fantasized.
等你冷静下来，就会发现根本没你幻想的那么糟。
CollocationB1↩ 00:11
not as bad as something
not as bad as something
没你想的那么糟
When you calm down , you realize it's not as bad as you fantasized.
等你冷静下来，就会发现根本没你幻想的那么糟。
GrammarB1↩ 00:11
When you calm down, you realize
时间状语从句：When 先给出时间条件，主句才是 realize 的判断。
When you calm down , you realize it's not as bad as you fantasized.
等你冷静下来，就会发现根本没你幻想的那么糟。
Pronunciation↩ 00:11
not as bad
not as 连成 no-tas，t 贴 a
When you calm down , you realize it's not as bad as you fantasized.
等你冷静下来，就会发现根本没你幻想的那么糟。
Pronunciation↩ 00:17
they're gone in
they're 弱成 /ðər/，gone 才是落点
All the festering wounds of your marriage, the disappointments, the resentments, they're gone in one clean yank , and you're free.
婚姻里那些化脓的伤口、失望、怨恨，一下子全拽干净了，你就自由了。
SlangB2↩ 00:17
yank
一把拽掉——口语，力道粗，书面少用
All the festering wounds of your marriage, the disappointments, the resentments, they're gone in one clean yank , and you're free.
婚姻里那些化脓的伤口、失望、怨恨，一下子全拽干净了，你就自由了。
SlangA2↩ 00:26
Boy
哎呦、天哪——熟人感叹，正式场合别用
- Boy ! - You can't imagine.
- 天哪！ - 你想象不出来。
CollocationB2↩ 00:28
swallow one's anger
swallow one's anger
把怒气压下去、往肚里咽
After years of accumulating problems and swallowing one's anger , to have the chance to begin again .
问题积了那么多年，怒火一直往肚里咽，终于有机会重新开始。
CollocationA2↩ 00:28
begin again
begin again
重新开始
After years of accumulating problems and swallowing one's anger , to have the chance to begin again .
问题积了那么多年，怒火一直往肚里咽，终于有机会重新开始。
GrammarB2↩ 00:28
to have the chance to begin again
不定式短语：前面 after years... 铺垫，后面用 to have 当感叹的核心。
After years of accumulating problems and swallowing one's anger , to have the chance to begin again .
问题积了那么多年，怒火一直往肚里咽，终于有机会重新开始。
GrammarB1↩ 00:43
The one advantage of being a little older
名词短语主语：The one advantage of... 整块当主语，破折号后才是 is 的表语。
The one advantage of being a little older - is you have a lot of experience. - Yeah.
年纪稍长的一个好处——就是经验多了。 - 没错。
CollocationB2↩ 00:49
have a better shot at something
have a better shot at something
做成某事的把握更大
这里 shot=机会，不是开枪
I have a much better shot at making things work out ... if I meet someone.
要是再遇上人，我把关系经营好的把握大多了。
CollocationB2↩ 00:49
make things work out
make things work out
把关系或事情经营成功
I have a much better shot at making things work out ... if I meet someone.
要是再遇上人，我把关系经营好的把握大多了。
GrammarB2↩ 00:54
if Gabe and I met now, knowing all the things we know, we'd have a better relationship
虚拟条件句：if 用过去式 met，主句 we'd have；中间插入 knowing 补充现状。
I've often thought that if Gabe and I met now, knowing all the things we know, we'd have a better relationship , no question.
我常想，要是盖布和我现在才认识，以我们现在懂的这些，关系绝对会更好，这没问题。
Pronunciation↩ 00:54
we'd have a
we'd 弱成 /wəd/，have 也轻
I've often thought that if Gabe and I met now, knowing all the things we know, we'd have a better relationship , no question.
我常想，要是盖布和我现在才认识，以我们现在懂的这些，关系绝对会更好，这没问题。
CollocationB1↩ 01:11
break up
break up
分手、散掉
You know, for me, I just... the thought of breaking up is just so painful.
你知道，对我来说，我就是……一想到分手就难受得不行。
CollocationB2↩ 01:17
stay together out of something
stay together out of something
因为某种原因才不分开
这里是因为害怕才凑在一起
You can't stay together out of fear , because then you know what you become ?
你不能因为害怕才凑在一起，否则你知道会变成什么样吗？
GrammarB2↩ 01:17
because then you know what you become
反问句：because 后面用问句把后果甩给对方，不是真在求答案。
You can't stay together out of fear , because then you know what you become ?
你不能因为害怕才凑在一起，否则你知道会变成什么样吗？
SlangB1↩ 01:36
splitting
散伙、要分开——口语说离婚分手，比 divorcing 随意
Because you got so angry that night when Jack and I said we were splitting .
因为那天晚上杰克和我说要散的时候，你气成那样。
CollocationB2↩ 01:41
touch a nerve
touch a nerve
戳到痛处、碰到敏感点
I thought about it later. I realized we must have touched a nerve .
后来我想了想，才明白我们一定是戳到你的痛处了。
Pronunciation↩ 01:41
touched a nerve
touched a 连成 /tʌtʃtə/，别断开
I thought about it later. I realized we must have touched a nerve .
后来我想了想，才明白我们一定是戳到你的痛处了。
CollocationB1↩ 02:06
a possibility for someone
a possibility for someone
一个可以介绍给你的人选
这里 possibility=可撮合的对象，不是抽象可能
Listen, so I think maybe I have a possibility for you .
听着，所以我想也许有个人选可以介绍给你。
Pronunciation↩ 02:22
He's-He's-He's charming
He's 连说三遍，h 几乎吞掉
I do think he's attractive. He's-He's-He's charming . He's bright.
我确实觉得他有魅力。他……他……他很迷人。人也聪明。
CollocationB1↩ 02:26
the timing is perfect
the timing is perfect
时机正好
The timing's perfect . What more could you want?
时机正好。你还想要什么？
Pronunciation↩ 02:29
you'd come up
you'd 弱成 /jəd/，come up 才清楚
I just think if you'd come up to the office now and meet him and see how you feel...
我就是想，要是你现在来一趟办公室见见他，看看自己什么感觉……
CollocationA2↩ 02:39
go out together
go out together
一起出去
这里带约会、介绍见面的意思
We'll all go out together or something.
我们一起出去吃个饭之类的。
Teaching points
Review right after watchingMy level
above my level
VocabularyC1↩ 00:08
anticipatory anxiety
事前就会有的焦虑
In the scene莎莉对朱迪说，分居前那种慌张全是预期焦虑，冷静后就没了。
Most of my exam panic was anticipatory anxiety; the test itself was fine.我那场考试的慌张多半是事前焦虑，真正考起来还好。
In daily life
安慰术前朋友That racing heart is anticipatory anxiety, not the surgery itself.心跳那么快是事前焦虑，不是手术本身。
above my level
IdiomB2↩ 00:15
pulling a bad tooth
像拔掉一颗坏牙
In the scene莎莉把结束婚姻比成拔坏牙：痛一下，化脓的伤口就没了。
Quitting that group chat was like pulling a bad tooth: one sting, then quiet.退那个群就像拔坏牙：痛一下，然后清静了。
In daily life
劝人辞职Leaving that desk is like pulling a bad tooth; linger and it keeps throbbing.离开那张桌子就像拔坏牙，拖着只会一直疼。
above my level
IdiomB2↩ 01:41
touched a nerve
戳到痛处
In the scene莎莉事后回想：朱迪那晚那么生气，一定是被她们的分手戳到了。
Mentioning his old boss touched a nerve, and the table went quiet.一提他前任老板就戳到痛处，一桌人安静了。
In daily life
家庭聚餐Asking about her rent touched a nerve, so I changed the subject.问她房租戳到痛处，我就换话题了。
above my level
SlangB2↩ 00:49
a better shot at
更有机会做成
In the scene莎莉说年纪大了经验多，再遇上人，把关系经营好的把握更大。
With this portfolio, she has a much better shot at the fellowship.有这份作品集，她拿奖学金的把握大多了。
In daily life
求职讨论If you rewrite the cover letter, you have a better shot at the interview.封面信重写一版，你进面试的机会更大。
above my level
CollocationB2↩ 00:28
swallow one's anger
把怒气压下去
In the scene莎莉说婚姻里问题越积越多，怒火一直往肚里咽，现在才有机会重来。
She kept swallowing her anger in meetings until the project collapsed.她开会一直把怒气压下去，直到项目垮掉。
In daily life
室友争执Stop swallowing your anger about the dishes; just say it tonight.别再把洗碗的火往肚里咽，今晚就说。
above my level
IronyB2↩ 00:02
like being single
口口声声爱单身
In the scene莎莉刚宣布爱单身，转头就要给自己介绍办公室的迈克尔。
He posted I love quiet nights, then asked us to book three parties.他刚发热爱安静夜晚，转头就让我们订三场派对。
In daily life
吐槽朋友She said she liked being free, then texted us five dating profiles.她说自己爱自由，转头甩来五个相亲资料。
above my level
VocabularyB2↩ 01:53
overdramatizing
把事情说得太戏剧
In the scene朱迪否认莎莉的哈姆雷特诊断，说她把午餐心理分析演过头了。
I'm not overdramatizing; the client really did hang up mid-sentence.我没有演过头，客户真的话说到一半就挂了。
In daily life
同事互怼Stop overdramatizing the delay; the train is four minutes late.别把晚点演成灾难，火车只晚四分钟。
Golden lines
A great line in its own right — why and how to use it“I like being single.”
我喜欢单身。
Why it's great
五个词把新身份钉死，短、硬、好搜，后文却在打这句的脸。
Pattern
I like being...
When to use
想干脆表态自己享受某种状态时用，比还行更硬。
Similar
Single suits me. ／ I'm enjoying being on my own.
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informal
Shadowing tip
like 和 single 两处重音，中间别拖。
Use it yourself
朋友问近况I like living alone now.我现在喜欢一个人住。
“You can't stay together out of fear, because then you know what you become?”
你不能因为害怕才凑在一起，否则你知道会变成什么样吗？
Why it's great
把不敢分手说成会变成自己最怕的那种父母，问句把刀递过去。
Pattern
You can't stay together out of...
When to use
劝人别因为害怕而维持一段关系或一份工作时用。
Similar
Don't stay just because you're scared. ／ Fear is not a reason to stay.
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neutral
Shadowing tip
fear 落下，become 上扬收成问句。
Use it yourself
劝人别将就You can't stay in that job out of fear.你不能因为害怕才耗在那份工作里。
“All the festering wounds of your marriage, the disappointments, the resentments, they're gone in one clean yank, and you're free.”
婚姻里那些化脓的伤口、失望、怨恨，一下子全拽干净了，你就自由了。
Why it's great
用拔牙的一下拽，把怨恨失望说成可以一次性清除。
Pattern
They're gone in one clean...
When to use
形容忍很久之后一次性了结某段关系或坏习惯时用。
Similar
It's like ripping off a bandage. ／ One clean break and you're done.
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informal
Shadowing tip
yank 咬短，free 打开收住。
Use it yourself
聊戒掉熬夜The late-night scrolling is gone after one clean break, and you sleep.熬夜刷手机一刀两断，你就能睡着了。
Monologue
One character carrying the scene — shadow the whole passage❝ 莎莉的单身颂
Well, that's all anticipatory anxiety. When you calm down, you realize it's not as bad as you fantasized. It's like pulling a bad tooth. All the festering wounds of your marriage, the disappointments, the resentments, they're gone in one clean yank, and you're free.
唉，那都是事前的焦虑罢了。 等你冷静下来，就会发现根本没你幻想的那么糟。 就像拔掉一颗坏牙。 婚姻里那些化脓的伤口、失望、怨恨，一下子全拽干净了，你就自由了。
用拔牙一气呵成，把怨恨说成一记拽掉。
Takeaways
What you walk away with- Say I like being single without hedging
- Hear touched a nerve as a sore spot
- Use a better shot at for better odds
- Catch staying together only out of fear
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Questions, then the linesDoes Sally really like being single?
She says so, but Judy had the opposite impression and later calls her out.
What does touched a nerve mean?
It means you hit a sore spot. Sally thinks Judy secretly wants to leave too.
What is anticipatory anxiety here?
Fear you feel before a change. Sally says it fades once you are actually single.
What does pulling a bad tooth mean?
A metaphor: yank out the marriage pain in one pull, and you are free.
What does stay together out of fear mean?
Staying in a relationship only because you are afraid to leave it.