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当回忆已救不回这段关系
Husbands and Wives · 1992
CEFR C1IELTS 7.5apartmentFamily conflict雅思
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Everything you need before watchingGabe and Judy are already on edge when he learns she has been writing poetry and showing it at the office. She has gone back into therapy. Their fight ricochets from judgment to children to whether change equals death. Then Gabe tries to save them with a snowy night in Central Park. Judy lets him finish, then says those memories are only memories: it is over, and they both know it.
盖
Gabehusband
朱
Judywife
Chapters
15 parts · AI-cut01Friends Announce a Split当朋友轻松宣布拆伙C13'49"02A Late-Night Marriage Talk当拆伙消息烧到自己家C13'21"03A Date Interrupted当约会变成对前段的质问B24'12"04Praising a Student Story当夸奖让人脸红心跳C12'46"05Kamikaze Women Theory当危险的人反而让你上瘾C13'02"06Meeting the New Girlfriend当朋友的新欢让你说不出话B24'35"07Lunch After the Split把拆伙说成拔牙C12'43"08A Walk About Writing当夸人变成一场暧昧散步C13'14"09Too Fast After the Date当约会很甜你却突然喊停C13'57"10Meeting the Parents当见家长变成一部连续剧B23'48"11Astrology Blowup当聚会上被当众拖走有多难堪C14'37"12He Wants to Come Back当前夫醉闯旧家还想复合B24'08"13The Novel Gets Critiqued当崇拜突然变成一场文学审判C13'27"14The Marriage Is Over当回忆已救不回这段关系C13'56"15Birthday in a Blackout当停电把生日变成暧昧时刻B22'48"
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00:02
I didn't know you were fooling around with poetry.
我不知道你还在诗里瞎折腾。
00:05
I didn't think you'd be interested.
我以为你不会感兴趣。
00:07
- Well, why not? - Because.
- 那为什么不感兴趣？ - 因为。
00:10
I'll tell you something. I'd be embarrassed to show you my stuff.
跟你说吧。我拿自己的东西给你看，会觉得难为情。
00:13
- Why? - Because you're so hard on everything .
- 为什么？ - 因为你对什么都特别苛刻。
00:16
- I am not. What are you talking about? - You are too.
- 我才没有。你在说什么？ - 你就是这样。
00:18
- You're very, very judgmental. - I'm not judgmental. I like poetry.
- 你非常、非常爱评判人。 - 我不爱评判。我喜欢诗。
00:22
You know, I'm crazy about Shakespeare and Byron and T. S. Eliot. You know...
你知道，我迷死莎士比亚、拜伦和 T. S. 艾略特了。你知道……
00:27
Uh, yeah, well. My stuff isn't quite that good yet.
呃，是啊。我那些东西还没那么好。
00:30
Well, I would have given you an objective evaluation.
那我会给你一个客观评价的。
00:32
I don't want an objective evaluation, you know?
我不要客观评价，知道吗？
00:35
I'd like something a little more supportive. A little more generous.
我想要的是多一点支持。多一点宽厚。
00:39
You mean like from that character in your office?
你是说像你办公室里那个角色给的那种？
00:41
He's not a "character."
他不是什么「角色」。
00:44
- Are you in love with him? - No.
- 你爱上他了？ - 没有。
00:46
Why, b-because I've shown a few poems?
怎么，就因为我给看了几首诗？
00:49
I saw Dr. Ritchie today.
我今天去见了里奇医生。
00:51
- Oh, where? - I went back into psychotherapy.
- 哦，在哪儿？ - 我又回去做心理治疗了。
00:55
Jesus , you're kidding ! You don't need psychotherapy, and certainly not with her.
天哪，你开玩笑吧！你不需要心理治疗，更不该找她。
01:00
You're just threatened by her because she's postmodern.
你只是被她威胁到了，因为她是后现代的。
01:03
Anyone who writes a paper suggesting the Sabine women had it coming to them...
谁写论文暗示萨宾妇女是活该被抢……
01:08
- That's not it. - Jesus .
- 不是那样。 - 天哪。
01:10
- I do not flirt! - Don't tell me you don't flirt, because I've seen you do it at parties .
- 我没有调情！ - 别跟我说你不调情，我在派对上看见过。
01:15
- You put on a whole other personality. - Oh, you're crazy!
- 你整个人会换一副性格。 - 哦，你疯了！
01:18
Of course you do.
你当然会。
01:19
You get all soulful and pretend to want things you really can't stand.
你变得特别深情，假装想要那些你其实受不了的东西。
01:22
- Like what? What are you talking about? - Like moving to Europe.
- 比如什么？你在说什么？ - 比如搬去欧洲。
01:25
That's a flirting technique.
那是调情手段。
01:27
You couldn't survive off the island of Manhattan for more than 48 hours.
你离开曼哈顿岛活不过四十八小时。
01:29
You're the one that misrepresented herself when we got married.
结婚的时候，是你自己在误导人。
01:33
- What do you mean? Like what? - Like what?
- 什么意思？比如什么？ - 比如什么？
01:35
Like you had one child and you didn't want any more.
比如你已经有一个孩子，不想再生了。
01:38
That was the way I felt then.
那是我当时的感觉。
01:39
People change. I'm not the same person I was all those years ago .
人会变。我已经不是多年前的那个人了。
01:43
- That's why relationships go sour . - Yeah, you hate change.
- 所以感情才会变味。 - 对，你讨厌改变。
01:46
- Sure I hate... Change equals death . - What kind of bullshit ?
- 我当然讨厌……改变等于死亡。 - 这叫什么狗屁？
01:48
It's death.
就是死亡。
01:50
Maybe you're fooling your 20-year-old students into thinking that's some kind of an insight or something, but it means nothing.
也许你能糊弄你那些二十岁的学生，让他们以为这是什么洞见，但这毫无意义。
01:56
Change is what life is made of.
改变才是生命的组成部分。
01:58
If you don't change, you don't grow . You just shrivel up !
你要是不改变，就不会成长。你只会干枯萎缩！
02:02
I don't want to make love.
我不想做爱。
02:04
You always get sexual at the oddest times.
你总是在最奇怪的时候想上床。
02:06
What are you so tense for?
你这么紧张干什么？
02:08
You use sex to express every emotion except love.
你用性来表达每一种情绪，就除了爱。
02:12
Yeah, you were attracted to me because, in some way ...
对，你被我吸引，是因为某种意义上……
02:15
And I never figured out how... but in some way , I reminded you of Harriet.
我始终没弄明白怎么回事……但某种意义上，我让你想起了哈丽雅特。
02:19
But then I disappointed you because I was too normal.
可后来我让你失望了，因为我太正常。
02:21
I was attracted to you because you were solid and decent and you were not crazy.
我被你吸引，是因为你踏实、正派，而且不疯。
02:26
- Yeah, and you found that too boring. - No. As it turns out , you...
- 对，然后你又觉得那太无聊。 - 不。结果发现，你……
02:30
In your own quiet way, you're as crazy as Harriet was.
你以自己那种安静的方式，跟哈丽雅特一样疯。
02:33
- Oh, see? I did remind you of Harriet. - No, look.
- 哦，看吧？我的确让你想起哈丽雅特了。 - 不，听着。
02:36
My sixth sense told me...
我的第六感告诉我……
02:37
Some kind of sixth sense said that you were not stable.
某种第六感说，你并不稳定。
02:40
But on the surface , you were.
但表面上，你是稳定的。
02:42
But now that we're having all kinds of problems, you...
可现在我们问题一堆，你……
02:44
You're not stable. You were on the surface , but not really.
你并不稳定。表面上是，其实不是。
02:47
This whole thing is becoming very clear to me.
这整件事对我来说越来越清楚了。
02:49
Uh, w-w-we both couldn't sleep one night, remember?
呃，有、有一晚我们都睡不着，记得吗？
02:53
And we found... the movie of Wild Strawberries on the cable station and we stayed up all night watching it?
然后我们找到……有线台在放《野草莓》，我们就熬了一夜把它看完？
03:00
- Remember that? That was such a great... - Yeah.
- 记得吗？那真是太棒的…… - 记得。
03:02
For some reason, a great moment for me.
不知为什么，对我来说是个美妙时刻。
03:04
Or when we were going to the faculty dinner and...
或者那次我们要去参加教职工晚宴，然后……
03:07
I'll never forget this. We were on Fifth Avenue, and it was just an icy, black night.
我永远忘不了。我们在第五大道上，那是个冰封的黑夜。
03:11
We were walking downtown. You remember that?
我们往下城走。你还记得吗？
03:14
- Suddenly we decided not to go to dinner. - Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
- 突然我们决定不去吃饭了。 - 嗯。嗯。
03:17
We said the hell with it . It was such a beautiful night, We walked into Central Park.
我们说去他的。夜色那么美，我们就走进了中央公园。
03:20
It was so snowy that night, and you could see every star.
那天雪下得很大，每颗星星都看得见。
03:23
Mmm, remember how cold it was?
嗯，记得有多冷吗？
03:24
You were so beautiful in that black dress. Really.
你穿着那条黑裙子真美。真的。
03:29
- Mmm. - Don't do that.
- 嗯。 - 别这样。
03:31
Wh-Why not?
为、为什么不行？
03:33
Because it's over , and we both know it.
因为结束了，咱们都清楚。
03:36
Do we?
是吗？
03:39
Yeah. You know, all that stuff that...
是。你知道，那些东西……
03:41
Those memories. They're just memories.
那些记忆。它们只是记忆。
03:44
They're, they're, they're from years gone by .
它们，它们，它们是过去那些年的事了。
03:47
They're just isolated moments, you know?
它们只是孤立的瞬间，知道吗？
03:49
They don't, they don't tell the whole, the whole story.
它们不能，不能讲完整、讲完整件事。
03:55
Several days later, Gabe moved out of his apartment and into a hotel.
几天后，盖布搬出公寓，住进了酒店。
Language points
Click a card to jump to its moment in the videoCollocationB1↩ 00:02
fool around with something
fool around with something
随便玩玩、涉猎
这里不是乱搞男女，是玩票写诗
I didn't know you were fooling around with poetry.
我不知道你还在诗里瞎折腾。
Pronunciation↩ 00:10
I'd be embarrassed
I'd 吞掉 would，只剩 /aid/
I'll tell you something. I'd be embarrassed to show you my stuff.
跟你说吧。我拿自己的东西给你看，会觉得难为情。
CollocationB1↩ 00:13
be hard on something
be hard on something
对什么都苛刻
- Why? - Because you're so hard on everything .
- 为什么？ - 因为你对什么都特别苛刻。
Pronunciation↩ 00:13
you're so hard
you're 弱读，hard 加重
- Why? - Because you're so hard on everything .
- 为什么？ - 因为你对什么都特别苛刻。
Pronunciation↩ 00:16
What are you
are 弱读成 /ər/
- I am not. What are you talking about? - You are too.
- 我才没有。你在说什么？ - 你就是这样。
CollocationA2↩ 00:22
be crazy about someone/something
be crazy about someone/something
非常着迷
You know, I'm crazy about Shakespeare and Byron and T. S. Eliot. You know...
你知道，我迷死莎士比亚、拜伦和 T. S. 艾略特了。你知道……
Pronunciation↩ 00:41
not a
not a 的 t 弹舌，听成 no-da
He's not a "character."
他不是什么「角色」。
SlangB1↩ 00:55
Jesus
天哪、我的天——惊讶或嫌弃的口头禅，不是真祈祷
Jesus , you're kidding ! You don't need psychotherapy, and certainly not with her.
天哪，你开玩笑吧！你不需要心理治疗，更不该找她。
SlangA2↩ 00:55
you're kidding
你开玩笑吧——熟人里表示不敢相信，书面少用
Jesus , you're kidding ! You don't need psychotherapy, and certainly not with her.
天哪，你开玩笑吧！你不需要心理治疗，更不该找她。
CollocationB2↩ 01:03
have it coming
have it coming
活该、自作自受
这里指萨宾妇女活该被抢
Anyone who writes a paper suggesting the Sabine women had it coming to them...
谁写论文暗示萨宾妇女是活该被抢……
GrammarC1↩ 01:03
Anyone who writes a paper suggesting the Sabine women had it coming to them
定语从句：Anyone who... 是「凡是……的人」，后面整段是对这个人的评价。
Anyone who writes a paper suggesting the Sabine women had it coming to them...
谁写论文暗示萨宾妇女是活该被抢……
GrammarB2↩ 01:10
because I've seen you do it at parties
原因从句：see someone do 是看见全过程；because 带出证据。
- I do not flirt! - Don't tell me you don't flirt, because I've seen you do it at parties .
- 我没有调情！ - 别跟我说你不调情，我在派对上看见过。
GrammarB2↩ 01:39
the same person I was all those years ago
省略关系词：person 后省了 that/who，I was 补出从前的自己。
People change. I'm not the same person I was all those years ago .
人会变。我已经不是多年前的那个人了。
CollocationB2↩ 01:43
go sour
go sour
变糟、闹僵
这里指感情变味
- That's why relationships go sour . - Yeah, you hate change.
- 所以感情才会变味。 - 对，你讨厌改变。
Pronunciation↩ 01:46
Change equals death
death 重读砸死这句话
- Sure I hate... Change equals death . - What kind of bullshit ?
- 我当然讨厌……改变等于死亡。 - 这叫什么狗屁？
SlangB2↩ 01:46
bullshit
胡说、狗屁——吵架时骂对方扯淡，正式场合别用
- Sure I hate... Change equals death . - What kind of bullshit ?
- 我当然讨厌……改变等于死亡。 - 这叫什么狗屁？
CollocationB2↩ 01:58
shrivel up
shrivel up
干枯萎缩
If you don't change, you don't grow . You just shrivel up !
你要是不改变，就不会成长。你只会干枯萎缩！
GrammarB1↩ 01:58
If you don't change, you don't grow
条件句：If 条件句，两个 don't 并列，后果是不成长。
If you don't change, you don't grow . You just shrivel up !
你要是不改变，就不会成长。你只会干枯萎缩！
CollocationB1↩ 02:15
figure something out
figure something out
弄明白、想通
And I never figured out how... but in some way , I reminded you of Harriet.
我始终没弄明白怎么回事……但某种意义上，我让你想起了哈丽雅特。
CollocationB1↩ 02:15
in some way
in some way
在某种意义上
And I never figured out how... but in some way , I reminded you of Harriet.
我始终没弄明白怎么回事……但某种意义上，我让你想起了哈丽雅特。
Pronunciation↩ 02:15
figured out how
figured 的 t 弹成美式 d
And I never figured out how... but in some way , I reminded you of Harriet.
我始终没弄明白怎么回事……但某种意义上，我让你想起了哈丽雅特。
CollocationB2↩ 02:26
as it turns out
as it turns out
结果发现
- Yeah, and you found that too boring. - No. As it turns out , you...
- 对，然后你又觉得那太无聊。 - 不。结果发现，你……
CollocationB1↩ 02:30
as adjective as someone
as adjective as someone
和某人一样疯
In your own quiet way, you're as crazy as Harriet was.
你以自己那种安静的方式，跟哈丽雅特一样疯。
GrammarB1↩ 02:30
as crazy as Harriet was
同级比较：as + 形容词 + as，后可接从句，比的是疯狂程度。
In your own quiet way, you're as crazy as Harriet was.
你以自己那种安静的方式，跟哈丽雅特一样疯。
CollocationB1↩ 02:40
on the surface
on the surface
表面上
But on the surface , you were.
但表面上，你是稳定的。
CollocationA2↩ 02:53
stay up all night
stay up all night
熬了一整夜
And we found... the movie of Wild Strawberries on the cable station and we stayed up all night watching it?
然后我们找到……有线台在放《野草莓》，我们就熬了一夜把它看完？
CollocationB1↩ 03:17
the hell with something
the hell with something
去他的、不管了
We said the hell with it . It was such a beautiful night, We walked into Central Park.
我们说去他的。夜色那么美，我们就走进了中央公园。
Pronunciation↩ 03:33
Because it's over
over 重读，Because 一带而过
Because it's over , and we both know it.
因为结束了，咱们都清楚。
CollocationB1↩ 03:44
years gone by
years gone by
逝去的岁月
They're, they're, they're from years gone by .
它们，它们，它们是过去那些年的事了。
Teaching points
Review right after watchingMy level
above my level
SwearingB2↩ 01:46
bullshit
胡说、狗屁
In the scene朱迪骂盖布「改变等于死亡」是扯淡，火气直接爆粗。
What kind of crap is that hiring rule?那条招聘规定算什么玩意？
In daily life
吐槽方案This forecast is complete crap.这预测纯属扯淡。
above my level
IronyC1↩ 01:50
some kind of an insight
所谓的深刻洞见
In the scene朱迪嘲盖布把口号当哲理，糊弄二十岁学生。
He calls that overtime policy some kind of a gift.他把那套加班制度说成某种恩赐。
In daily life
嘲同事鸡汤She treats that slogan as some kind of wisdom.她把那句口号当成某种智慧。
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IdiomB1↩ 00:02
fool around with
随便玩玩、涉猎
In the scene盖布发现朱迪写诗，语气像在说她不务正业。
She's been messing around with watercolors after work.她下班后在水彩上随便玩玩。
In daily life
聊业余爱好He's been dabbling in jazz piano this year.他今年在爵士钢琴上随便摸摸。
above my level
IdiomB2↩ 01:43
go sour
变糟、闹僵
In the scene盖布把感情变味归罪于人会变，朱迪回呛他怕变。
The partnership went sour after the second audit.第二次审计之后，这合伙关系就变味了。
In daily life
谈合作失败Our group project went sour once nobody answered the chat.群里没人回消息，小组作业就黄了。
above my level
IdiomB2↩ 01:03
had it coming
活该、自作自受
In the scene盖布抨击那篇论文：竟暗示萨宾妇女活该被抢。
After lying to the board, he had it coming.对董事会撒谎之后，他这下是活该。
In daily life
吐槽被骂He skipped the briefing; he had it coming when the boss exploded.他没开通气会，老板发火也是活该。
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Phrasal verbB1↩ 02:15
figure out
弄明白、想通
In the scene朱迪说自己始终没想通，自己哪点让盖布想起哈丽雅特。
I still haven't figured out why the numbers never matched.我到现在都没弄明白，那些数字为什么对不上。
In daily life
找通行证I can't figure out where I left the pass.我想不通通行证丢在哪儿了。
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CollocationB1↩ 02:40
on the surface
表面上
In the scene盖布说朱迪表面稳定，骨子里并不稳，像秋后算账。
On the surface the team is calm, but the Slack thread is on fire.表面上团队很平静，可群里已经炸了。
In daily life
评价同事On the surface he's helpful; he just never shares credit.他表面上很帮忙，就是从不把功劳分人。
Golden lines
A great line in its own right — why and how to use it“Because it's over, and we both know it.”
因为结束了，咱们都清楚。
Why it's great
短、冷、不商量：用陈述句把婚姻判死刑。
Pattern
It's over, and we both know it.
When to use
一段关系走到头、双方其实心知肚明、只需说破时用。
Similar
We're done. ／ This is finished.
Register
informal
Shadowing tip
over 重读，and we both know it 压低。
Use it yourself
拒绝复合This partnership is finished, and both of us already know.这段合作结束了，咱们心里都有数。
“Change is what life is made of.”
改变才是生命的底料。
Why it's great
把抽象口号说成材料构成，像格言，也像反驳死亡论。
Pattern
X is what Y is made of.
When to use
反驳对方把变化说成灾难时用，带一点哲理。
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Change is part of life. ／ Nothing stays still.
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literary
Shadowing tip
Change 稍顿，made of 落稳。
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劝人换岗Uncertainty is what this job is made of.不确定才是这份工作的底料。
“And I never figured out how... but in some way, I reminded you of Harriet.”
我始终没弄明白怎么回事……但某种意义上，我让你想起了哈丽雅特。
Why it's great
停顿里藏着多年委屈：爱过，却从未被看清。
Pattern
I never figured out how...
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一件事想了很久仍想不通、带着委屈说出来时用。
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I still can't work out why. ／ I never understood how.
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informal
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figured out 弹舌，how 后留白。
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复盘失败I never worked out how the launch slipped, but it started with the silent yes.我始终没弄明白上线怎么翻车的，但一切从那句默许的好开始。
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One character carrying the scene — shadow the whole passage❝ 盖布翻出雪夜
Uh, w-w-we both couldn't sleep one night, remember? And we found... the movie of Wild Strawberries on the cable station and we stayed up all night watching it? - Remember that? That was such a great... - Yeah. For some reason, a great moment for me. Or when we were going to the faculty dinner and... I'll never forget this. We were on Fifth Avenue, and it was just an icy, black night. We were walking downtown. You remember that? - Suddenly we decided not to go to dinner. - Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. We said the hell with it. It was such a beautiful night, We walked into Central Park. It was so snowy that night, and you could see every star. Mmm, remember how cold it was? You were so beautiful in that black dress. Really.
呃，有、有一晚我们都睡不着，记得吗？ 然后我们找到……有线台在放《野草莓》，我们就熬了一夜把它看完？ - 记得吗？那真是太棒的…… - 记得。 不知为什么，对我来说是个美妙时刻。 或者那次我们要去参加教职工晚宴，然后…… 我永远忘不了。我们在第五大道上，那是个冰封的黑夜。 我们往下城走。你还记得吗？ - 突然我们决定不去吃饭了。 - 嗯。嗯。 我们说去他的。夜色那么美，我们就走进了中央公园。 那天雪下得很大，每颗星星都看得见。 嗯，记得有多冷吗？ 你穿着那条黑裙子真美。真的。
用细节堆浪漫，越温柔越像最后的挽留。
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What you walk away with- Use figured out for something unsolved
- Hear go sour when love turns
- Catch Because it's over as a verdict
- Use on the surface for fake calm
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Questions, then the linesWhat does figured out mean in this scene?
She never worked out how she reminded him of Harriet.
How do you translate Because it's over?
The marriage is finished, and both of them already know.
What does go sour mean for a relationship?
The relationship has turned; the sweetness is gone.
What does Change equals death mean here?
Gabe's slogan. Judy calls it empty insight for students.
What does on the surface mean in this fight?
She looked stable. Underneath, he says, she was not.