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Family at the Graveside 墓前认家人IMDb ↗
墓前他说没有家人，沃利顶回来：我就是
Uncle Frank · 2020
CEFR B1IELTS 5.0cemeteryHealingIdentity
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The story so far
Everything you need before watchingFrank falls apart at Sam's grave. He calls the dead man a coward for not saying it to his face, then begs forgiveness and claims he has no family. Wally will not let that stand: he is Frank's family, till death, and God knows it. Beth then corners her uncle. Years ago he told her to be what she wanted, not what others wanted. Now she finds he still cannot be who he is if anyone around him disagrees.
弗
Frankbereaved uncle
沃
WallyFrank's partner
贝
Bethniece
萨
Samfirst love
Chapters
17 parts · AI-cut01Birthday Gifts and Snubs全家没人拿她当回事，只有叔叔会对着她说话B23'25"02Choose Your Own Name离开小镇才看见世界能有多大，他把Betty改成BethB23'05"03Dinner With a Cover饭桌上禁忌一提全场变了B22'10"04Campus Table Small Talk食堂里互报家乡，他对外却说来自格林尼治B11'53"05A Drunken Coming Out醉得站不稳，叔叔才把同居十年说出口B13'14"06Morning-After Family Talk宿醉醒来咖啡已经摆好，他求她别把出柜告诉家里B12'26"07News of a Death噩耗来时该不该带伴侣回去B12'56"08Road Talk After Loss再也见不到麦老爹，车里却要把布鲁斯这个混蛋骂到位B22'11"09He Follows Anyway说好留下的人还是追上来了B11'42"10Nice Always Hides Something别把客气当成没有秘密B13'07"11A Brother's Apology灵堂里弟弟先把父亲讲完整，才承认自己几乎没联系B11'58"12Motel and Reputation电话里还叫她Betty，她顶回去：我叫贝丝，不是一个人住B11'56"13Eulogy and Old Threats颂词里他是慈父，切回去却在把儿子骂进火湖B22'58"14Wake Talk and Secrets守灵席上从纽约口音聊到名人，话锋却要绕开沃利B23'36"15The Will Humiliates Him当着全家人宣读遗嘱，长子分到的只有对他的厌恶C11'53"16Family at the Graveside墓前他说没有家人，沃利顶回来：我就是B14'35"17Introducing Him at Home他把沃利带进老家，弟弟只甩出两个字：没问题B12'59"
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00:02
Couldn't even say it to my face , could you?
连当面都说不出口，是不是？
00:05
Coward .
懦夫。
00:47
What did I do?
我做错什么了？
01:10
Oh, God! Oh, God.
哦，上帝！哦，上帝。
01:33
Sam.
萨姆。
01:39
Forgive me.
原谅我。
01:43
Forgive me.
原谅我。
01:56
Oh, Samuel.
哦，萨姆。
02:00
Sam.
萨姆。
02:02
Frank.
弗兰克。
02:16
I have no family .
我没有家人。
02:20
You have me.
你还有我。
02:27
I'm your family , and you're mine .
我是你的家人，你也是我的。
02:31
Till death .
至死都是。
02:39
You know it, I know it, and God knows it .
你知道，我知道，上帝也知道。
02:43
And that's all that matters .
其他的都不重要。
02:49
I'm sorry.
对不起。
02:59
You should be.
你是该道歉。
03:14
Mama made me promise if I found you, I'd bring you back .
妈妈让我答应，找到你就把你带回去。
03:19
I don't want to see them, Beth.
我不想见他们，贝丝。
03:26
But, so years ago , when you told me
可是，多年前，你跟我说
03:28
I should be what I want to be,
我应该做自己想做的人，
03:30
not what other people want me to be, that was just bullshit ?
而不是别人希望我成为的人，那都是扯淡？
03:39
You know, that conversation changed my life .
你知道，那次谈话改变了我的一生。
03:43
Now I find out you can't be who you are
现在我才发现，你并不能做真正的自己，
03:46
unless nobody around you disagrees with it.
除非身边没人反对。
04:03
I thought you, uh...
我以为你，呃……
04:05
you might want this back .
你也许想把这个拿回去。
04:20
You want to go meet my fucking family?
你想去见见我那该死的家人？
04:27
Yeah.
想。
04:29
If you take a shower first. [laughs]
你先洗个澡再说。（笑）
04:32
Ugh, Frank, it's like the sewers of Sri Lanka.
呃，弗兰克，味道跟斯里兰卡的下水道似的。
Language points
Click a card to jump to its moment in the videoCollocationB1↩ 00:02
say something to someone's face
say something to someone's face
当着面把话说出来
Couldn't even say it to my face , could you?
连当面都说不出口，是不是？
CollocationA2↩ 00:02
to someone's face
to someone's face
当着某人的面
Couldn't even say it to my face , could you?
连当面都说不出口，是不是？
GrammarB1↩ 00:02
could you?
反意疑问：前半否定，后半 could you 上扬，逼对方承认不敢当面说。
Couldn't even say it to my face , could you?
连当面都说不出口，是不是？
Pronunciation↩ 00:02
say it to
say it 连成 say-yit，t 很轻
Couldn't even say it to my face , could you?
连当面都说不出口，是不是？
Pronunciation↩ 00:02
could you
you 弱成 /jə/，尾音上扬逼问
Couldn't even say it to my face , could you?
连当面都说不出口，是不是？
SlangB1↩ 00:05
Coward
懦夫——当面骂人，正式场合别用
Coward .
懦夫。
CollocationA2↩ 02:16
have no family
have no family
没有家人
I have no family .
我没有家人。
GrammarB1↩ 02:27
you're mine
省略结构：you're mine 省了 family：你也是我的家人。
I'm your family , and you're mine .
我是你的家人，你也是我的。
Pronunciation↩ 02:27
I'm your family
I'm、your 弱读，重音在 family
I'm your family , and you're mine .
我是你的家人，你也是我的。
Pronunciation↩ 02:27
you're mine
you're 弱成 /jər/，mine 加重收住
I'm your family , and you're mine .
我是你的家人，你也是我的。
CollocationB2↩ 02:31
till death
till death
至死都算、到死都算
这里是婚誓口吻认家人，不是在说死
Till death .
至死都是。
CollocationB1↩ 02:39
God knows (that)
God knows (that)
上帝知道、老天作证
You know it, I know it, and God knows it .
你知道，我知道，上帝也知道。
CollocationB1↩ 02:43
all that matters
all that matters
真正要紧的只有这个
And that's all that matters .
其他的都不重要。
Pronunciation↩ 02:43
that's all that
两个 that 都弱，重音在 matters
And that's all that matters .
其他的都不重要。
CollocationB1↩ 03:14
make someone promise
make someone promise
让某人答应、逼某人许诺
Mama made me promise if I found you, I'd bring you back .
妈妈让我答应，找到你就把你带回去。
CollocationA2↩ 03:14
bring someone back
bring someone back
把某人带回去
Mama made me promise if I found you, I'd bring you back .
妈妈让我答应，找到你就把你带回去。
GrammarB2↩ 03:14
made me promise if I found you
使役加条件：made me promise 是使役，if 从句是条件。
Mama made me promise if I found you, I'd bring you back .
妈妈让我答应，找到你就把你带回去。
CollocationA1↩ 03:26
years ago
years ago
多年以前
But, so years ago , when you told me
可是，多年前，你跟我说
GrammarA2↩ 03:26
when you told me
时间从句：when 引出当年那次谈话，后面才接她被劝的内容。
But, so years ago , when you told me
可是，多年前，你跟我说
SlangB2↩ 03:30
bullshit
胡说、废话——生气时骂空话，正式场合别用
not what other people want me to be, that was just bullshit ?
而不是别人希望我成为的人，那都是扯淡？
CollocationB1↩ 03:39
change someone's life
change someone's life
改变了某人的一生
You know, that conversation changed my life .
你知道，那次谈话改变了我的一生。
CollocationA2↩ 03:43
find out (that)
find out (that)
发现、查明
Now I find out you can't be who you are
现在我才发现，你并不能做真正的自己，
CollocationB1↩ 03:43
be who you are
be who you are
做真正的自己
Now I find out you can't be who you are
现在我才发现，你并不能做真正的自己，
GrammarB1↩ 03:43
who you are
表语从句：who you are 是 be 的表语从句：真实的那个自己。
Now I find out you can't be who you are
现在我才发现，你并不能做真正的自己，
Pronunciation↩ 03:43
find out you
out 的 t 在 you 前弹成 flap
Now I find out you can't be who you are
现在我才发现，你并不能做真正的自己，
CollocationA2↩ 03:46
disagree with someone/something
disagree with someone/something
不同意某人/某事
unless nobody around you disagrees with it.
除非身边没人反对。
GrammarB2↩ 03:46
unless nobody around you disagrees with it
unless从句：unless 等于 if not；叠 nobody，即没人反对才成立。
unless nobody around you disagrees with it.
除非身边没人反对。
CollocationA2↩ 04:05
want something back
want something back
想把某物要回去
you might want this back .
你也许想把这个拿回去。
Pronunciation↩ 04:20
want to go
want to 常黏成 wanna，t 被吞
You want to go meet my fucking family?
你想去见见我那该死的家人？
SlangB2↩ 04:20
fucking
加强语气的脏话——熟人之间发泄，课堂只认词
You want to go meet my fucking family?
你想去见见我那该死的家人？
CollocationA1↩ 04:29
take a shower
take a shower
洗个澡
If you take a shower first. [laughs]
你先洗个澡再说。（笑）
Pronunciation↩ 04:29
take a shower
take a 的 t 在元音前弹成 flap
If you take a shower first. [laughs]
你先洗个澡再说。（笑）
Teaching points
Review right after watchingMy level
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IdiomB1↩ 00:02
to my face
当着面说出来
In the scene弗兰克对着萨姆的墓骂：你连当面都说不出口。
If you have a complaint, say it to my face, not in the group chat.有意见就当面说，别发到群里。
In daily life
当面解释Don't text me that. Say it to my face.别发短信。当着我的面说。
above my level
IdiomB2↩ 02:31
till death
至死都算
In the scene沃利对弗兰克说，用婚誓口吻认他为家人。
We're sticking together till death, even if the lease ends next month.租约下月到期，我们也要一起走到最后。
In daily life
结婚纪念They promised till death, and they still mean it.他们答应过至死不渝，现在也还当真。
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CollocationB1↩ 02:43
all that matters
真正要紧的只有这个
In the scene沃利说互为家人就够了，别的都不重要。
Whether we win or not, the kids having fun is all that matters.赢不赢无所谓，孩子玩得开心才要紧。
In daily life
安慰朋友You showed up. That's all that matters tonight.你来了。今晚这就够了。
above my level
SwearingB2↩ 03:30
bullshit
胡说、废话
In the scene贝丝质问弗兰克：你当年那套做自己，难道是放屁？
If the offer has no contract, that promise is just bullshit.没有合同的承诺，就是瞎说。
In daily life
骂人泄愤Don't feed me that bullshit about the train being late again.别再用火车晚点这套废话搪塞我。
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IdiomB1↩ 03:43
be who you are
做真正的自己
In the scene贝丝说她发现叔叔并不能做真正的自己。
You can keep the job and still be who you are after hours.工作可以留，下班后仍能做自己。
In daily life
鼓励同学Wear the jacket. Be who you are on stage.穿那件外套。上台就做你自己。
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CollocationB1↩ 03:39
change my life
改变了某人的一生
In the scene贝丝说叔叔当年那次谈话改变了她的一生。
Switching majors that spring changed my life.那年春天换专业，改变了我的一生。
In daily life
感谢教练That extra practice hour changed my life.多练的那一小时改变了我的一生。
above my level
IronyB2↩ 03:46
unless nobody disagrees
没人反对才算数
In the scene贝丝揭穿：身边一有人反对，他就做不成自己。
He preaches honesty, unless nobody in the room might be offended.他满口诚实，除非屋里有人可能不高兴。
In daily life
家庭聚餐She supports my major unless grandpa is at the table.除非爷爷在桌边，她才支持我的专业。
Golden lines
A great line in its own right — why and how to use it“I'm your family, and you're mine.”
我是你的家人，你也是我的。
Why it's great
对称句把伴侣说成家人，短、硬、像誓词。
Pattern
be someone's family
When to use
安慰觉得自己没人要的人，或确认亲密关系时用。
Similar
You're stuck with me ／ I've got you
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literary
Shadowing tip
family 和 mine 都加重，中间略停。
Use it yourself
安慰伴侣She's my family now, lease or no lease.租约有没有，她现在都是我的家人。
“And that's all that matters.”
其他的都不重要。
Why it's great
把复杂关系收成一句：真正要紧的只有这件事。
Pattern
that's all that matters
When to use
强调某件事压过其他争议、借口时用。
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That's the only thing that counts ／ Nothing else matters
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neutral
Shadowing tip
that's 轻轻带过，matters 收住。
Use it yourself
加班取舍If the kid is safe, that's all that matters.孩子安全就行，别的都不重要。
“You know, that conversation changed my life.”
你知道，那次谈话改变了我的一生。
Why it's great
口语 You know 开头，把一次谈话抬成人生转折。
Pattern
that talk changed my life
When to use
感谢别人一句劝、一次深谈之后用。
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That talk saved me ／ You changed how I see myself
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informal
Shadowing tip
conversation 拉长，changed 加重。
Use it yourself
感谢老师That one office-hour talk changed my life.那一次答疑改变了我的一生。
Monologue
One character carrying the scene — shadow the whole passage❝ 沃利墓前认亲
You have me. I'm your family, and you're mine. Till death. You know it, I know it, and God knows it. And that's all that matters.
你还有我。 我是你的家人，你也是我的。 至死都是。 你知道，我知道，上帝也知道。 其他的都不重要。
从认亲收到 till death，越来越像誓词。
❝ 贝丝反将一军
But, so years ago, when you told me I should be what I want to be, not what other people want me to be, that was just bullshit? You know, that conversation changed my life. Now I find out you can't be who you are unless nobody around you disagrees with it.
可是，多年前，你跟我说 我应该做自己想做的人， 而不是别人希望我成为的人，那都是扯淡？ 你知道，那次谈话改变了我的一生。 现在我才发现，你并不能做真正的自己， 除非身边没人反对。
把旧劝告原句甩回，再用 unless 揭伪善。
Takeaways
What you walk away with- Use till death for a lifelong bond
- Hear say it to my face as a challenge
- Close with all that matters
- Catch bullshit as a blunt call-out
- Use be who you are for identity
People also search
Questions, then the linesWhat does till death mean here?
From the marriage vow. Wally means they are family for life.
How do you translate I'm your family?
I am your family. Wally claims Frank at the graveside.
How do you use that's all that matters?
To close an argument: only this counts, nothing else.
What does say it to my face mean?
Say it in front of me, not behind my back.
How do you translate that was just bullshit?
Was that all nonsense? Beth calls out Frank's old advice.