Before Sunrise · 1995 — 第 7 / 21 章 · 3'13" · B2

Two People Talk About Parents and Love, Explained:romantic projections

Parents come up as damage: one line describes freedom won and handed down, another says everybody's parents messed them up. The talk turns to marriage, and a hard line lands: "I always saw the world as this place where I really wasn't meant to be." Underneath is a question: can anyone be happy in love?

あらすじ

Two people talk about the families they grew up in. One line describes parents who rebelled in May '68, with a father who went on to become a successful architect; another says parents give children too much or too little. The conversation moves through marriage, divorce, and a grandmother's lifelong longing for another man, ending with a joke about a romantic voice on the Ferris wheel.

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注目の表現

born intosame old shitstuck aroundthank you very much

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このシーンの表現

romantic projections

idealized fantasies projected onto someone

Someone says people put romantic projections on things without any basis in reality; the reply asks, "Romantic projections?"

She had romantic projections about the relationship before they even met.

このシーンの他の表現

  • born into

    be born into a situation

  • same old shit

    the same old crap

  • stuck around

    stayed instead of leaving

  • thank you very much

    a thank-you that often carries irritation or emphasis

  • shaped the way I think

    formed how I think

このシーンのメモ一覧

50 行のセリフに 29 件のメモ

表現 · B1born into something

be born into a situation

Someone says the era you are born into does not really matter.

I don't think it really matters what generation you're born into.
文法 · B1what generation you're born into

subject clause: The what-clause is the real subject; it only holds its place at the front.

I don't think it really matters what generation you're born into.
発音born into

Let born into run together; keep into light and quick.

I don't think it really matters what generation you're born into.
表現 · B2revolt against something

fight against something

They were these angry, young May '68 people revolting against everything — the government, their conservative Catholic backgrounds.
表現 · B1go on to become something

later became

Then my father went on to become this successful architect and we began to travel all around the world while he built bridges and towers and stuff.
表現 · B1can't complain about something

have no real complaint about

I mean, I really can't complain about anything.
表現 · B1be raised with something

grow up with something

I've been raised with all the freedom they had fought for.
表現 · B2deal with the same old something

handle the same old crap

We still have to deal with the same old shit, but we can't really know who or what the enemy is.
文法 · B2who or what the enemy is

embedded question: The embedded question keeps statement order after know: who or what the enemy is.

We still have to deal with the same old shit, but we can't really know who or what the enemy is.
スラング · B2fucked them up

messed them up emotionally — Vulgar and casual; avoid it at work or with strangers.

Everybody's parents fucked them up.
表現 · B1stick around

stayed instead of leaving

Someone lists parental failures: some left, some stayed but taught the wrong things.

They either left them, or they stuck around, taught 'em the wrong things.
表現 · B2teach someone the wrong things

teach bad lessons

They either left them, or they stuck around, taught 'em the wrong things.
発音taught 'em

Keep 'em very light; do not give them its full form.

They either left them, or they stuck around, taught 'em the wrong things.
表現 · A2try one's best

do as much as possible

And they try their best to be nice to me.
表現 · B1stick together

stay together

They should've done it a lot sooner, but they stuck together for a while for the well-being of my sister and I, thank you very much.
表現 · B2for the well-being of someone

for someone's good

They should've done it a lot sooner, but they stuck together for a while for the well-being of my sister and I, thank you very much.
スラング · B1pissed off

very angry — Casual and mildly vulgar; not for formal or professional settings.

to have me, that he was really pissed off when he found out that she was pregnant with me, that I was this big mistake.
表現 · B2shape the way someone thinks

formed how I think

After recalling being called a mistake, someone says that moment shaped the way they think.

That really shaped the way I think.
表現 · B1see something as something

view something as

I always saw the world as this place where I really wasn't meant to be.
文法 · B2where I really wasn't meant to be

relative clause: The where-clause describes the place and carries the passive idea of not being meant to exist there.

I always saw the world as this place where I really wasn't meant to be.
表現 · B1take pride in something

feel proud of it

Well, I mean, I eventually took pride in it, like my life was my own doing or something,
表現 · B2be someone's own doing

caused by oneself

Well, I mean, I eventually took pride in it, like my life was my own doing or something,
表現 · B2crash a party

enter a party uninvited Here it is a metaphor for feeling unwanted in the world.

like I was crashing the big party.
表現 · B2accept one's fate

accepted what seemed inevitable

Someone sums up a grandmother's life as accepting her fate.

She just accepted her fate. It's so sad.
表現 · A2get to know someone

come to know someone

If she'd ever got to know him, I'm sure he would have disappointed her eventually.
文法 · B2If she'd ever got to know him

unreal conditional: Had got to know sets up a past possibility that did not happen; would have gives its imagined result.

If she'd ever got to know him, I'm sure he would have disappointed her eventually.
表現 · C1romantic projections about someone

idealized fantasies projected onto someone

Someone says people put romantic projections on things without any basis in reality; the reply asks, "Romantic projections?"

It's just, people have these romantic projections they put on everything that's not based on any kind of reality.
表現 · B2be based on reality

grounded in reality

It's just, people have these romantic projections they put on everything that's not based on any kind of reality.
発音based on any

Let based on any glide; keep the d soft and the phrase moving.

It's just, people have these romantic projections they put on everything that's not based on any kind of reality.

「Two People Talk About Parents and Love」を読み解く

What's really going on

What sounds like a family conversation is really a debate about whether love can be honest. One voice says freedom was handed down: "I've been raised with all the freedom they had fought for," yet the fight has changed: "we can't really know who or what the enemy is." A blunt answer follows: "Everybody's parents fucked them up," and the next lines level every upbringing, rich or poor. When the talk turns to happy couples, the suspicion is that "they lie to each other," and that "People can live their whole life as a lie." Even a grandmother's lifelong longing is described through romantic projections: a picture not based on reality. The lines keep returning to one question: do people fall for an image instead of the person in front of them?

Theme

GenerationsParents are discussed less as people than as damage: too much attention, too little, or a marriage held together for the children's sake.
LiesThe scene tests happy love against divorce, resignation, and the suspicion that couples lie to each other.

発音のポイント

  • born into — Let born into run together; keep into light and quick.
  • taught 'em — Keep 'em very light; do not give them its full form.
  • based on any — Let based on any glide; keep the d soft and the phrase moving.
I don't think it really matters what generation you're born into.

One line rejects the idea that the era you are born into decides everything; it says that does not really matter.

Everybody's parents fucked them up.

A blunt claim that no upbringing is clean: parents either gave too much, too little, or the wrong lessons.

I always saw the world as this place where I really wasn't meant to be.

Growing up as an unwanted child made the world feel like a party the speaker was never invited to.

People can live their whole life as a lie.

The line doubts happy couples: a whole marriage can be sustained by mutual pretense.

It's just, people have these romantic projections they put on everything that's not based on any kind of reality.

People fall for a fantasy they project onto someone or something, not for what is actually there.

このシーンについての質問

What does "same old shit" mean in this line?

It means the same old problems, said bluntly with a swear word. The line is "We still have to deal with the same old shit, but we can't really know who or what the enemy is." It is casual and not for formal settings.

What is the difference between "stuck around" and "stuck together"?

In the lines, "They either left them, or they stuck around" means the parents stayed; "they stuck together for a while" means the couple stayed together. Stuck around is about staying in a place, stuck together about staying in a relationship.

What does "accepted her fate" tell us about the grandmother?

The lines say, "She spent her whole life dreaming about another man she was always in love with," then "She just accepted her fate." A later line says "he would have disappointed her eventually"; it is a guess, not a reason given by the grandmother.

Why does the line end with "thank you very much"?

The line is "they stuck together for a while for the well-being of my sister and I, thank you very much." The thank-you comes right after the sacrifice for the children. It can add irritation or emphasis, but the scene does not show whether it is sincere.

How does the speaker describe the effect of being called a mistake?

The next line is "That really shaped the way I think," and then "I always saw the world as this place where I really wasn't meant to be." Shaped means formed over time, as in shaped how I see things or shaped my views.

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