not proceeding smoothly
I had sensed that things weren't going well with my parents.Spielberg · 2017 — 第 5 / 10 章 · 3'25" · C1
Fifteen Years of Estrangement, Explained：estrangement
A son watches his father cry in the kitchen and shouts him down until the family pushes him out. The parents are splitting up, and nobody will say why. What follows is not a fight. "We never had angry words, but it was an estrangement that I created," and that silence lasts fifteen years.
あらすじ
In a kitchen he sees his father break down and cry for the first time. He screams "crybaby" until they push him out. His mother cries at the piano until she cannot see the notes and announces the parents are splitting up. He never says he is angry. The estrangement he says he created lasts fifteen years.
注目の表現
broke downcrybabyto the pointsplitting up
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このシーンの表現
estrangement
a long cold rupture between close people
Someone who never fought his father calls the cold an estrangement he created, in a guilty, corrective tone.
We lived in an estrangement I never explained.
このシーンの他の表現
- broke down
suddenly lose control and cry
- crybaby
an insult for someone who cries
- to the point
so far that this result follows
- splitting up
end a marriage or long relationship
- How dare I
shocked at my own past nerve
このシーンのメモ一覧
59 行のセリフに 32 件のメモ
that-complement: The that-clause states why he is outraged.
And I just stood there in the kitchen, outraged that my father was not a man.Let not a blur, with the t only a light pass.
And I just stood there in the kitchen, outraged that my father was not a man.at the highest volume possible
And I started screaming "crybaby" at him as loud as I could.a taunt for crying — A tease at best; cruel when someone is actually grieving.
And I started screaming "crybaby" at him as loud as I could.force someone out of a place
Just started screaming, "Crybaby, you crybaby, you crybaby," until they pushed me out of the kitchen.informal you all — Casual address; skip it in a meeting.
Come on, you guys.completely filled with despair
and celebrative about life itself to being full of despairsadness you can almost feel
and palpable sadness.living through the same ordeal
I was going through the same thing.passive clause: It is a placeholder; the that-clause is what was announced.
So, when it was announced by my mom that my mom and my dad were splitting up,verb ellipsis: didn't stands in for know why and stretches the not-knowing.
I didn't know why they were splitting up, and I didn't for a long time.began to love someone else
I fell in love with somebody else.wildly and recklessly in love
I was madly in love with Bernie Adler.centered only on oneself
It was all about me and my unhappiness.allow them to believe it
Instead, I let them think I divorced her.Keep the shortened 'cause; don't rebuild the long word.
Protecting her 'cause she's fragile.able to bear more pain than her
And so, I figured I could be hurt less than she.comparative ellipsis: than she drops could be hurt and keeps only her.
And so, I figured I could be hurt less than she.the situation taken as a whole not a painting; the whole family arrangement
You look at the big picture, that's shit.crude word for awful — All right in a private rant, not with elders or at work.
You look at the big picture, that's shit.I did not realize it then hit means realize, not strike
It didn't hit me till I got olderIn practice, let that t tap once between the vowels.
It didn't hit me till I got olderfelt a sharp pity for him not literal blood; aching pity
that that was a really tough thing for Dad, and I-- my heart bled for him.shut him out of their lives
So, during a number of years, we blocked him out.held him responsible for it
And Steve, I know, blamed him for the relationship going bad.an open angry argument
We never had angry words, but it was an estrangement that I created, not from my dad.relative clause: The clause defines the distance as one he himself made.
We never had angry words, but it was an estrangement that I created, not from my dad.Weight created, then let the rest answer his father.
We never had angry words, but it was an estrangement that I created, not from my dad.became swallowed by the work not geographically lost; consumed by work
I just went off and got lost in my work,turned into a person addicted to work
I became my father. I became a workaholic.stopped being in touch with him
And I just lost the contact with him.「Fifteen Years of Estrangement」を読み解く
What's really going on
He had never seen his father cry. When his dad "broke down" in the kitchen, he stood there "outraged that my father was not a man" and saw him "crying like a little boy." He "started screaming \"crybaby\" at him as loud as I could" until they pushed him out. He also did not know why his parents were "splitting up," and he "didn't want to know." The father says he would never tell the kids she divorced him. "Instead, I let them think I divorced her," "Protecting her 'cause she's fragile," because "I figured I could be hurt less than she," and "I still loved her." Years later the son says, "We never had angry words, but it was an estrangement that I created, not from my dad." His father "was seeking a relationship." He "went off and got lost in my work," "became a workaholic," and "lost the contact." "It went on for... 15 years."
Theme
Family conflictHe screams at his crying father and spends fifteen years in an estrangement he says he created, with no angry words.
MarriageThe parents are splitting up, and the father lets the kids think he divorced her so he can protect her.
発音のポイント
- not a man — Let not a blur, with the t only a light pass.
- 'cause she's — Keep the shortened 'cause; don't rebuild the long word.
- got older — In practice, let that t tap once between the vowels.
- I created — Weight created, then let the rest answer his father.
And I just stood there in the kitchen, outraged that my father was not a man.In the kitchen he freezes at the first sight of his father in tears, and the anger is that his father looks, to him, like less than a man.
I look back, I think, "How dare I do that?"The speaker looks back on loving Bernie Adler and asks how they could have dared, because it was all about their own unhappiness.
Instead, I let them think I divorced her.He admits he let the kids think he divorced her, instead of telling them that she divorced him.
And so, I figured I could be hurt less than she.He believed the hurt would land less on him than on her.
We never had angry words, but it was an estrangement that I created, not from my dad.He is clear that they never fought. The long cold distance was something he made, not something his father started.
I became my father. I became a workaholic.He means he turned into the father he watched: a workaholic, buried in the job.
このシーンについての質問
How does he describe screaming "crybaby" at his father?
He says he had never seen his dad cry. He stood in the kitchen, "outraged that my father was not a man," because his father was "crying like a little boy." He "started screaming 'crybaby' at him as loud as I could," and he kept shouting "Crybaby, you crybaby, you crybaby," until they pushed him out of the kitchen.
Why does the father say he let the kids think he divorced her?
He says he would never tell the kids that she divorced him. "Instead, I let them think I divorced her." The reason he gives is "Protecting her 'cause she's fragile," and "I figured I could be hurt less than she." He adds, "I still loved her."
Who does he say created the estrangement?
He says, "We never had angry words, but it was an estrangement that I created, not from my dad." His father "was seeking a relationship," while he "went off and got lost in my work" and "lost the contact." "It went on for... 15 years."
Did he ever tell his father he was angry?
No. He says, "I never told my dad I was mad at him." He also says they "never had angry words." The distance was an estrangement he created, while his father was seeking a relationship with him.
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