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All of Us Strangers · 2023 — 第 5 / 15 章 · 2'49" · B1

Adam Comes Out to His Mum, Explained：have your cake and eat it

A dinner-table question about a girlfriend turns into a confession. "I don't have a girlfriend because I'm not into girls" is Adam finally saying it plainly, and his mother's reply — "You don't look gay" — shows both her surprise and her assumptions. She says she is okay with it, then keeps testing the idea.

あらすじ

At dinner, Adam's mum asks whether he has a girlfriend and starts imagining one for him. Adam hesitates, then tells her he doesn't have a girlfriend because he isn't into girls — he is gay. His mother is surprised and keeps asking questions: whether people are nasty to him, whether he is open about it, and whether he wants to marry and have children.

Family dinnersParents & kidsConfessingAskingParent & childB1fastbritishClean
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注目の表現

I'm presumingnot into girlslook gayglad you don't know the neighbors

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このシーンの表現

have your cake and eat it

want it both ways

Unable to see how two men could marry, his mother jokes it is like having your cake and eating it.

You can't have your cake and eat it, so pick one.

このシーンの他の表現

  • I'm presuming

    I assume

  • not into girls

    not attracted to girls

  • look gay

    seem to be gay

  • glad you don't know the neighbors

    wry relief about neighbours

  • okay with it

    fine with it

このシーンのメモ一覧

53 行のセリフに 23 件のメモ

表現 · A2have you got something

do you have

Now, your dad told me not to ask, and I don't see a wedding ring, so I'm presuming you're not married, but have you got a girlfriend?
文法 · B1your dad told me not to ask

negative infinitive: The negative goes before the infinitive: told me not to ask.

Now, your dad told me not to ask, and I don't see a wedding ring, so I'm presuming you're not married, but have you got a girlfriend?
発音got a

In fast speech got a can sound like godda.

Now, your dad told me not to ask, and I don't see a wedding ring, so I'm presuming you're not married, but have you got a girlfriend?
表現 · B1picture someone with something

imagining her with

I'm picturing her with brown hair, not too skinny.
表現 · B1be into someone or something

not attracted to girls

Adam says he has no girlfriend because he is not into girls, then corrects it to women.

I don't have a girlfriend because I'm not into girls, (CLEARS THROAT) into women.
文法 · B1because I'm not into girls

reason clause: The because-clause supplies the real reason after the flat answer.

I don't have a girlfriend because I'm not into girls, (CLEARS THROAT) into women.
発音not into

Link not-into together, almost like no-tinto.

I don't have a girlfriend because I'm not into girls, (CLEARS THROAT) into women.
表現 · A2look + 形容词

seem to be gay

Hearing her son come out, his mother says he does not look gay.

You don't look gay.
表現 · B1not sure what something means

unclear what it means

Well, I'm not sure what that means.
発音what it

The t in what it is voiced, giving wha-dit.

It means what it means. You know what it means.
表現 · A2a bit + 形容词

a little surprised

Hmm. I must admit I'm a bit surprised.
表現 · B1be a possibility

a real option

What, you didn't, didn't think it would be a possibility?
表現 · B1be nasty to someone

unkind to

But aren't people nasty to you?
表現 · A2things are different now

the situation has changed

No, things are different now.
表現 · B1say something out loud

aloud

Not out loud, anyway.
表現 · B1be open about something

open about it

I mean, are you open about it? I mean...
表現 · A2it depends on something

hinges on

Well, it depends on the, on the street.
表現 · A2get married

to marry

Well, don't you want to get married and have kids?
発音get married and

The d in and often disappears: get married an'.

Well, don't you want to get married and have kids?
表現 · C1have your cake and eat it

want it both ways

Unable to see how two men could marry, his mother jokes it is like having your cake and eating it.

Well, isn't that like having your cake and eating it?
表現 · B1for such a long time

for so long

I don't know. It wasn't a possibility for such a long time.
表現 · B1be worth the effort

worth the trouble

So, I didn't think it was worth the effort of wanting to get married and have kids.
文法 · B2worth the effort of wanting to get married

gerund phrase: Worth takes a gerund, and of wanting spells out what the effort was for.

So, I didn't think it was worth the effort of wanting to get married and have kids.

「Adam Comes Out to His Mum」を読み解く

What's really going on

This is a coming-out scene in which nothing dramatic happens — that is what makes it sting. Adam steadies himself and says he has no girlfriend because he isn't into girls. His mother doesn't reject him, but she can't stop measuring him against her expectations. She admits she is surprised, says people can be nasty, and asks whether he wants to get married and have kids. When he points out that men and women can marry each other, she answers: "Well, isn't that like having your cake and eating it?" — the wish for a conventional life and a same-sex one at once. She even warns, "What parent wants to think that about their child?" Adam's answer stays quiet: marriage and children were never a possibility, so he stopped letting himself want them.

Theme

IdentityAdam names who he is for the first time at home, testing whether his family can hold the truth.
Family loveHis mother doesn't reject him but keeps measuring him against marriage and children, love and expectations tangled together.

このチャプターで学べること

  • Not into something means you simply do not like it.
  • Okay with it signals calm acceptance, not enthusiasm.
  • Having your cake and eating it means wanting it both ways.
  • Calling something not a possibility hides an old wish.

発音のポイント

  • got a — In fast speech got a can sound like godda.
  • not into — Link not-into together, almost like no-tinto.
  • what it — The t in what it is voiced, giving wha-dit.
  • get married and — The d in and often disappears: get married an'.
What parent wants to think that about their child?

Her excuse, said almost to herself: she never imagined this, because no parent wants to picture it.

Well, bet you're glad you don't know the neighbors now.

A dry joke that turns Adam's honesty into a comment on the neighbours — relief that they stay strangers.

Well, isn't that like having your cake and eating it?

Her baffled logic: wanting marriage and a same-sex partner looks to her like wanting two incompatible things at once.

So, I didn't think it was worth the effort of wanting to get married and have kids.

Adam explains why he never planned that life: for years it wasn't possible, so he trained himself not to want it.

このシーンについての質問

Why does Adam's mother ask about a girlfriend?

She is making dinner-table small talk about his future, assuming a conventional path. Her husband's warning not to ask doesn't stop her.

How does Adam's mother react to him being gay?

She is surprised rather than hostile. She says she is okay with it, but keeps testing the idea, asking about nasty people, being open, marriage and children.

What does "isn't that like having your cake and eating it?" mean here?

It's her puzzled way of saying same-sex marriage looks contradictory to her — as if wanting a normal married life and a same-sex partner were two things you can't have at once.

Why does Adam say marriage "wasn't a possibility"?

Because for most of his life it wasn't legally or socially available to him. He explains that he stopped letting himself want it rather than face the disappointment.

Does Adam's mother accept him?

Mostly. She doesn't reject him and says she is okay with it, but her questions show how far her understanding still has to travel.

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