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All of Us Strangers · 2023 — 第 8 / 15 章 · 3'32" · B1

Adam Feels Like a Stranger at Home, Explained：put a name to

A quiet talk about family becomes a map of where Adam stands in it. His parents know he is queer and "got used to it," but he says, "I mean, they're really old school." He calls himself "edge of the family," while his sister and brother hold the centre.

あらすじ

Harry asks Adam about his family. Adam says his parents know he is queer and have mostly accepted it, but they are old school and don't talk about it. He describes himself as 'edge of the family': his sister and her kids and his newly married brother sit at the centre, while he rarely goes home. He says it feels inevitable rather than sad.

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old schoolless okayedge of the familycoming out

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このシーンの表現

put a name to

give a name to

For Adam, coming out names the difference rather than causing it.

I couldn't put a name to the feeling until now.

このシーンの他の表現

  • old school

    very traditional

  • less okay

    not really fine with it

  • edge of the family

    on the edge of the family

  • coming out

    revealing one's sexuality

  • the way you felt

    how you felt back then

このシーンのメモ一覧

42 行のセリフに 23 件のメモ

表現 · B1the other day

a few days ago

You said the other day you don't see your dad much.
表現 · B1don't see someone much

don't see someone often

You said the other day you don't see your dad much.
表現 · A2What about someone/something

and what about

What about your mum?
発音know you're

Link know-you're into know-yer with a weak you're.

They know you're queer?
スラング · C1queer

queer, gay — Reclaimed by many LGBTQ people; still risky from a stranger.

They know you're queer?
スラング · B1course

of course — A clipped, casual of course in speech.

Yeah, course.
表現 · B2be old school

very traditional

Harry asks whether Adam's parents accept him; Adam calls them old school.

I mean, they're really old school.
表現 · B2be meant to be

supposed to be

Probably less okay than everyone's meant to be.
表現 · B1get used to something

became accustomed to it

Yeah. But they got used to it, sort of, it's just,
表現 · B2not say too much

keep quiet about it

they don't say too much.
表現 · B2right up to something

all the way to the edge

Or right up to the edge, almost.
表現 · B2edge of something

on the edge of the family

Adam builds a running image on edge: he has drifted to it, and now calls himself edge of the family.

I'm edge of the family.
文法 · B2who just got married

relative clause: The who-clause modifies the older brother, adding that he has just married.

My sister and her kids, and my older brother who just got married,
表現 · B1not go home much

rarely go home

I don't go home much.
表現 · A2make someone sad

make you unhappy

Does that make you sad?
表現 · B2feel like a stranger

feel like an outsider

I've always felt like a stranger in my own family.
文法 · B2I've always felt

present perfect: The present perfect with always marks a feeling that has lasted right up to now.

I've always felt like a stranger in my own family.
発音felt like a

Run felt-like-a together and keep the k light.

I've always felt like a stranger in my own family.
表現 · B2come out

revealing one's sexuality

Adam frames coming out as naming a difference, not creating it.

coming out just puts a name to that difference that's always been there.
表現 · C1put a name to something

give a name to

For Adam, coming out names the difference rather than causing it.

coming out just puts a name to that difference that's always been there.
表現 · B1it's someone's fault

anyone's fault

it's not really anyone's fault.
表現 · B2it doesn't take much to do something

it takes very little to

but doesn't take much to make you feel the way you felt,
発音doesn't take

The t in doesn't is often dropped before take.

but doesn't take much to make you feel the way you felt,

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What's really going on

The scene is Adam explaining, without self-pity, why he is distant from his family. Harry's questions stay gentle — do they know, are they okay with it — and Adam answers honestly: they got used to it, but "they don't say too much." He names his position precisely: "I'm edge of the family," with his sister and her children and his newly married brother occupying the centre. What could sound bitter he frames as "inevitable." The key line is his summary of coming out: "coming out just puts a name to that difference that's always been there." For him, the announcement didn't create the distance; it only labelled something older. That is why, in the end, "it's not really anyone's fault" — not his parents' and not his own.

Theme

IdentityAdam explains that coming out didn't create his difference from the family — it only named something already there.
Family conflictThe gap between parents who 'got used to it' and a son who feels like the edge of the family.

このチャプターで学べること

  • Edge of the family names a social spot, not a place.
  • Coming out gives a name to a difference that already existed.
  • Inevitable here means no one is really to blame.
  • Get used to it can mean quiet acceptance, not approval.

発音のポイント

  • know you're — Link know-you're into know-yer with a weak you're.
  • felt like a — Run felt-like-a together and keep the k light.
  • doesn't take — The t in doesn't is often dropped before take.
I've always felt like a stranger in my own family.

Adam's core feeling: even at home he was an outsider, long before he came out.

coming out just puts a name to that difference that's always been there.

For Adam the announcement didn't create the distance; it only labelled a difference he had always carried.

it's not really anyone's fault.

He refuses to blame his parents or himself, treating the distance as something that simply happened.

I mean, they're really old school.

A plain description of his parents: accepting on the surface, but shaped by older, quieter attitudes.

このシーンについての質問

Why does Adam feel like an outsider in his family?

He says he has always felt like a stranger at home. His sister and brother occupy the centre of family life while he rarely visits, so the distance predates his coming out.

Where does Adam place himself within his family?

On the edge. He calls himself "edge of the family," while his sister, her children and his newly married brother sit at the centre of family life.

Why does Adam call the distance from his family "inevitable"?

He sees the drift as unavoidable rather than anyone's fault. His parents are old school and don't discuss his life, so the gap between them simply grew over time.

Are Adam's parents accepting of him being gay?

On the surface yes — they know and got used to it. But Adam says they are old school and don't say much, so their acceptance is quieter and more limited than it looks.

Why doesn't Adam blame anyone for drifting away?

He says "it's not really anyone's fault." Neither his parents' attitudes nor his own choices caused the separation; it followed from a difference that was always there.

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