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儿子终于对父亲说出自己的真实选择
The Proposal · 2009
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The story so far
Everything you need before watchingAfter an awkward reaction to Andrew’s surprise marriage announcement, his father tries to repair the damage with an apology. Then the conversation turns to retirement, the family business, and the future his son is expected to inherit. Andrew pushes back: his New York life may look strange to his father, but it makes him happy. The scene builds through polite explanations, pointed questions, and a final burst of dry sarcasm.
安
Andrewson
父
Dadfather
Chapters
14 parts · AI-cut01Firing in the Office职场强人让下属当场认输B23'29"02Announcing a Fake Marriage职场强人被逼当众宣布结婚B24'01"03The Immigration Interview一场假恋爱要经得起层层盘问B24'23"04Negotiating a Fake Marriage一纸交易先谈条件再谈婚事B13'54"05Meeting the Family陌生人闯入大家庭后立刻成了焦点B27'27"06An Awkward Night Together被迫同床的两个人开始听见彼此心事B15'51"07Father and Son Clash儿子终于对父亲说出自己的真实选择B21'51"08An Ex Drops In家人越热情旧情人越容易说真话B15'16"09Trading Personal Secrets尴尬意外让两个陌生人开始交换秘密B16'25"10The Family Plans a Wedding一顿早餐把假婚推成全家婚礼B14'05"11A Dress and a Family Story家人用温柔传统慢慢卸下防备B14'06"12The Sham Marriage Exposed一次逃离让假婚姻当场面对法律后果B15'43"13A Wedding Confession真相在婚礼誓言前终于失控B27'37"14A Real Proposal追到办公室的人终于说出想要什么B12'52"
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00:02
Jeez You want to see me
天哪，你要见我？
00:05
Your mom found these eco balls
你妈找到了这些环保球。
00:08
They dissolve in water
它们能溶于水。
00:11
I don t know how she comes up with this stuff
我真不知道她是怎么想出这些东西的。
00:14
Anyway she uh is a little peeved
总之，她有点恼火。
00:18
Apparently I wasn t the most gracious of hosts last night
显然，我昨晚没当好主人。
00:22
It was a little bit of a shock
得知这件事着实有点震惊，
00:23
to find out that you re getting married
发现你居然要结婚了。
00:25
especially when none of us even knew you were dating
尤其是我们谁都不知道你在谈恋爱。
00:28
The point is I owe you an apology
重点是，我欠你一个道歉。
00:34
Accepted
我接受。
00:37
There s something else
还有件事。
00:39
I ve been going over my retirement plans recently
我最近一直在考虑退休后的安排，
00:43
and it got me thinking
这让我想了很多。
00:47
I ve done a lot of things in my life
我这辈子也做成了不少事。
00:48
Practically built an empire with your mother from the ground up
我和你妈几乎白手起家，打下了一个帝国。
00:52
It doesn t mean anything unless
可这一切都没有意义，除非——
00:53
Unless you have someone to leave it to
除非你有个人可以把它传下去。
00:54
We already discussed this I d like to discuss it again
这事我们已经谈过了，我想再谈一次。
00:58
You have responsibilities here
你在这里是有责任的。
01:02
I think I ve been more than understanding
我觉得我已经够体谅你了，
01:04
about your goofing off in New York
对你在纽约瞎混这件事一直睁一只眼闭一只眼。
01:05
I need you to quit playing around
我需要你别再玩了。
01:07
Here we go again
又来了。
01:08
When are you going to start taking what I do seriously
你到底什么时候才会开始认真看待我做的事？
01:10
When you start acting seriously
等你开始认真做人的时候。
01:12
I m sorry
对不起。
01:15
I feel sorry for you Dad
我真替你难过，爸。
01:17
I wish you had another son I really do
我真希望你还有另一个儿子，我是真这么希望。
01:19
One who wanted to stay here
一个愿意留在这里的儿子，
01:20
One who wanted to take over the family business
一个愿意接手家族生意的儿子，
01:22
One who wanted to marry someone that you approve of
一个愿意娶你认可的人的儿子，
01:24
but it s not me Now it must seem strange to you
但那个人不是我。现在你一定觉得我的选择很奇怪。
01:28
my life in New York sitting in an office reading books
我在纽约的生活，就是坐在办公室里看书，
01:33
But it makes me happy You understand
可这让我觉得快乐。你明白吗？
01:38
If that s what makes you happy son I got nothing to say
只要这样能让你快乐，儿子，我没什么好说的。
01:42
Well that s a first
哟，这倒是头一回。
01:44
You know what Apology not accepted Have fun out here
你知道吗，道歉我不接受。你就在外面好好待着吧。
Language points
Click a card to jump to its moment in the videoPronunciation↩ 00:02
want to see
to 弱读成 tə，want to see 连起来更快更轻。
Jeez You want to see me
天哪，你要见我？
SlangB1↩ 00:02
Jeez
天哪，哎呀——非正式感叹，表达惊讶或不耐烦。
Jeez You want to see me
天哪，你要见我？
CollocationB1↩ 00:11
come up with something
come up with something
想出或提出某个点子
I don t know how she comes up with this stuff
我真不知道她是怎么想出这些东西的。
Pronunciation↩ 00:11
comes up with
comes 与 up 连读，词尾 z 直接滑向元音。
I don t know how she comes up with this stuff
我真不知道她是怎么想出这些东西的。
CollocationB1↩ 00:14
be a little peeved
be a little peeved
有点恼火
Anyway she uh is a little peeved
总之，她有点恼火。
CollocationB1↩ 00:22
a bit of a shock
a bit of a shock
有点意外或震惊
It was a little bit of a shock
得知这件事着实有点震惊，
Pronunciation↩ 00:22
little bit of
little 中间的 t 轻弹，bit of 连读时也不要逐字爆破。
It was a little bit of a shock
得知这件事着实有点震惊，
GrammarB2↩ 00:25
when none of us even knew you were dating
when时间从句：when 引出背景时间，内部又用 knew 加宾语从句说明当时并不知情。
especially when none of us even knew you were dating
尤其是我们谁都不知道你在谈恋爱。
CollocationB1↩ 00:28
the point is (that)...
the point is (that)...
重点是，关键是
The point is I owe you an apology
重点是，我欠你一个道歉。
CollocationB1↩ 00:28
owe someone an apology
owe someone an apology
欠某人一个道歉
The point is I owe you an apology
重点是，我欠你一个道歉。
Pronunciation↩ 00:28
owe you an
owe-you-an 连成一串，you 和 an 不要分得太开。
The point is I owe you an apology
重点是，我欠你一个道歉。
CollocationB1↩ 00:39
go over something
go over something
仔细考虑或过一遍
I ve been going over my retirement plans recently
我最近一直在考虑退休后的安排，
CollocationB1↩ 00:48
build something from the ground up
build something from the ground up
从零开始建立
Practically built an empire with your mother from the ground up
我和你妈几乎白手起家，打下了一个帝国。
Pronunciation↩ 00:48
from the ground
the 弱读，from-the-ground 一口带过，重音落在 ground。
Practically built an empire with your mother from the ground up
我和你妈几乎白手起家，打下了一个帝国。
CollocationB2↩ 00:53
leave something to someone
leave something to someone
把某物留给某人
it 指父亲想传下去的家业
Unless you have someone to leave it to
除非你有个人可以把它传下去。
GrammarB2↩ 00:53
Unless you have someone to leave it to
unless条件句：unless 表示“除非”；to leave it to 是后置不定式，说明要留给谁。
Unless you have someone to leave it to
除非你有个人可以把它传下去。
SlangB1↩ 01:04
goofing off
瞎混，不认真——口语责备，正式场合改用 fooling around。
about your goofing off in New York
对你在纽约瞎混这件事一直睁一只眼闭一只眼。
CollocationB1↩ 01:05
play around
play around
闲混或不认真
I need you to quit playing around
我需要你别再玩了。
Pronunciation↩ 01:05
need you to
you、to 都弱读，need you to 语流中会明显压缩。
I need you to quit playing around
我需要你别再玩了。
CollocationB1↩ 01:08
take something seriously
take something seriously
认真对待某事
When are you going to start taking what I do seriously
你到底什么时候才会开始认真看待我做的事？
CollocationB1↩ 01:15
feel sorry for someone
feel sorry for someone
为某人感到难过
I feel sorry for you Dad
我真替你难过，爸。
CollocationB1↩ 01:20
take over something
take over something
接手或接管
One who wanted to take over the family business
一个愿意接手家族生意的儿子，
Pronunciation↩ 01:20
take over the
take-over 连读，the 弱读，别在三个词间平均停顿。
One who wanted to take over the family business
一个愿意接手家族生意的儿子，
CollocationB1↩ 01:22
approve of someone/something
approve of someone/something
认可或赞成
One who wanted to marry someone that you approve of
一个愿意娶你认可的人的儿子，
GrammarB2↩ 01:22
someone that you approve of
定语从句：that 引出修饰 someone 的从句，句末介词 of 不能漏掉。
One who wanted to marry someone that you approve of
一个愿意娶你认可的人的儿子，
GrammarB2↩ 01:28
sitting in an office reading books
分词短语：现在分词短语补充说明生活状态，两个动作同时发生。
my life in New York sitting in an office reading books
我在纽约的生活，就是坐在办公室里看书，
CollocationA2↩ 01:33
make someone happy
make someone happy
让某人感到开心
But it makes me happy You understand
可这让我觉得快乐。你明白吗？
Pronunciation↩ 01:33
makes me happy
makes 和 happy 重读，突出“这确实让我快乐”。
But it makes me happy You understand
可这让我觉得快乐。你明白吗？
CollocationB1↩ 01:38
have/get nothing to say
have/get nothing to say
无话可说
If that s what makes you happy son I got nothing to say
只要这样能让你快乐，儿子，我没什么好说的。
GrammarB2↩ 01:38
If that s what makes you happy
条件句：If 引出条件，what makes you happy 是其中作表语的名词性从句。
If that s what makes you happy son I got nothing to say
只要这样能让你快乐，儿子，我没什么好说的。
Teaching points
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Phrasal verbB1↩ 00:11
come up with
想出或提出某个点子
In the scene父亲吐槽母亲总能想出这些环保点子。
Can you come up with a better plan?你能想出更好的计划吗？
In daily life
开会提案We need to come up with a backup plan.我们得想出一个备用方案。
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CollocationB1↩ 00:28
owe someone an apology
欠某人一个道歉
In the scene父亲承认昨晚待客失礼，主动向儿子道歉。
I owe my teammate an apology.我得向队友道个歉。
In daily life
迟到道歉I owe you an apology for being late.我迟到了，得向你道歉。
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CollocationB1↩ 00:48
from the ground up
从零开始建立
In the scene父亲强调自己和妻子白手起家，建立了家业。
She built the studio from the ground up.她白手起家建起了这间工作室。
In daily life
做网站They built the website from the ground up.他们从零做起建好了这个网站。
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SlangB1↩ 01:04
goof off
胡混，不务正业
In the scene父亲把儿子在纽约的工作和生活贬成了瞎混。
Stop goofing off and finish the report.别再瞎混了，把报告写完。
In daily life
备考I can’t goof off before the exam.考试前我不能再混日子了。
above my level
IronyB2↩ 01:42
that’s a first
这倒是头一回
In the scene父亲罕见地不再反驳，儿子借这句话讽刺他的态度变化。
You arrived early? Well, that’s a first.你居然早到了？这倒是头一回。
In daily life
同事准时You are early today? That’s a first.你今天居然早到？这倒是头一回。
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Phrasal verbB1↩ 01:20
take over
接手或接管某事
In the scene儿子列出父亲期待的生活：留下来接手家族生意。
She will take over the shop next year.她明年会接手这家店。
In daily life
家族接班My sister will take over the family bakery.我妹妹会接手家里的面包店。
Golden lines
A great line in its own right — why and how to use it“Practically built an empire with your mother from the ground up”
我和你妈几乎是白手起家，打下了一个帝国。
Why it's great
from the ground up 把“从零开始”说得有画面，事业和项目都能用。
Pattern
build something from the ground up
When to use
介绍自己如何从零做成一件事。
Similar
start from scratch ／ build it from zero
Register
neutral
Shadowing tip
重读 built、empire、ground up，from the 弱读后收住 up。
Use it yourself
做副业We built the shop from the ground up.我们白手起家开起了这家店。
“I wish you had another son I really do”
我真希望你还有另一个儿子，我是真这么希望。
Why it's great
I wish you had... 表面是愿望，实际把失望和压力推回给对方。
Pattern
I wish you had...
When to use
表达对现状的遗憾，不是提出真实计划。
Similar
I wish you could... ／ If only you had...
Register
informal
Shadowing tip
I wish 连读，another son 后稍停，really do 加重表达真心。
Use it yourself
换班安排I wish you had told me earlier.我真希望你早点告诉我。
“Well that s a first”
哟，这倒是头一回。
Why it's great
短句靠语气制造反讽，表面平静，实际在提醒对方这次让步多罕见。
Pattern
Well, that’s a first.
When to use
对方终于做出罕见改变时，带点惊讶或调侃。
Similar
That’s a first. ／ I never thought I’d hear that.
Register
informal
Shadowing tip
Well 轻读，first 重读并拉长，尾调下落表示干脆的讽刺。
Use it yourself
老板表扬Well, that’s a first—I got a thank-you email.哟，这可是头一回——我居然收到感谢邮件。
Monologue
One character carrying the scene — shadow the whole passage❝ 父亲的家业劝说
I ve done a lot of things in my life Practically built an empire with your mother from the ground up It doesn t mean anything unless Unless you have someone to leave it to We already discussed this I d like to discuss it again You have responsibilities here I think I ve been more than understanding about your goofing off in New York I need you to quit playing around
我这辈子也做成了不少事。 我和你妈几乎白手起家，打下了一个帝国。 可这一切都没有意义，除非—— 除非你有个人可以把它传下去。 这事我们已经谈过了，我想再谈一次。 你在这里是有责任的。 我觉得我已经够体谅你了， 对你在纽约瞎混这件事一直睁一只眼闭一只眼。 我需要你别再玩了。
从自我夸耀转到责任施压，节奏逐步收紧。
Takeaways
What you walk away with- Use “from the ground up” for building from nothing.
- Recognize “goof off” as an informal criticism.
- Use “I wish you had...” to express regret.
- Use “take over something” for assuming control.
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Questions, then the linesWhat does “from the ground up” mean in The Proposal?
It means building something from nothing, as the father claims he did.
Why are the father and son arguing in this scene?
The father wants him to inherit the family business; he wants his own life.
How should “goofing off” be translated?
Naturally: fooling around, messing around, or not taking work seriously.
How can I use “take over the family business”?
Use it when someone is expected to assume control of a family company.
Is “I got nothing to say” agreement or sarcasm?
Here it signals reluctant acceptance, followed by the son’s dry sarcasm.