“Have you ever in your life thought "It should have been me"?”
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It makes survivor guilt a question that cannot be stepped around politely.
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Will's Wife Just Died, Explained
the-man-from-earth-2007 · 2007
Chapter 7 of 10 · 4'49"
On the surface they keep testing a man who may not die: wives who died, a funeral, even a vampire. Underneath, "Will you come to my funeral, John?" lands before the room hears the fact that makes it cruel. His wife died yesterday.
Key moments
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❝ Monologue · 5 lines It Should Have Been Me
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❝ Monologue · 5 lines invitation to the funeral
Belief is set aside, and a polite funeral question becomes the verdict.
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His Wife Died Yesterday
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Will's Wife Just Died, explained
What happens
A small group cannot leave the subject of dying. Questions to John move from a father, to wives and children, and to whether he has been stealing lives. They reach a funeral, a vampire, and a gun. One person leaves to grade papers rather than stay. After the gun questions, someone tells John he was on the ropes. Then Mary passed away yesterday: his wife, pancreatic cancer.
What's really going on
The talk opens with a plea to change the subject and stop the dying. It continues anyway: people who age and die, then "Have you ever in your life thought 'It should have been me'?" "I'm not saying you would do such a thing deliberately" denies only that it was deliberate, after talk of stealing lives and a creature that takes the life force. "Would you?" comes later. Belief is brushed aside: "Whether I believe it or not is of no importance." The split is stated, "We will die. You will live," and then made personal, "Will you come to my funeral, John?" Others say it has gone too far. A gun appears. One person leaves, calling grading papers preferable to staying. After "Where'd he get a gun?" someone says, "He had you on the ropes, John." Then Mary passed away yesterday, his wife, pancreatic cancer. The apology meets "Please, permit me to be infantile by myself." The harshest questions came before anyone explained the death from yesterday.
Key lines & what they mean
- “Have you ever in your life thought "It should have been me"?”
- Thrown at the man who watched a friend, a colleague, and a wife age and die. It asks whether he ever wanted the death to be his. The next line is only "Maybe."
- “Do you stand alive and tall in a graveyard that you helped to fill?”
- It comes right after the vampire question, including "Even an unknowing one." The picture matches the charge: alive and upright in a graveyard he helped to fill.
- “Will you come to my funeral, John?”
- Said to John by name. It turns "We will die. You will live" into one man's funeral. The next lines turn on Will and call that too far.
- “Whether I believe it or not is of no importance.”
- Comes after "So you believe me now?" and "I'm only exploring what you have said." Belief is pushed out of the discussion. The questioning is not.
- “Please, permit me to be infantile by myself.”
- The reply to "I'm sorry. I can see how this might have hit you." It asks to be left alone. The next line is "Will, please."
- “As much as I dislike that job, it'll be preferable to this.”
- "That job" is the papers just named. He dislikes the work and still prefers it to this. Then: "I leave you with it."
Theme
- Death & grief — A wife who died yesterday is named only after the funeral question, the vampire charge, and the gun.
- Identity — The room asks what he is: not quite human, a taker of life force, a vampire, someone who did not ask to be what he is.
What this chapter teaches
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A great line in its own right — why and how to use it“Do you stand alive and tall in a graveyard that you helped to fill?”
Why it's great
One upright body over graves he helped fill makes the envy visible.
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literary
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Do you stand safe and dry in a flood that you helped to start?
“Will you come to my funeral, John?”
Why it's great
The invitation is a verdict: he will still be alive when the speaker is not.
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Will you come to my goodbye dinner, or just wave from the door?
“Whether I believe it or not is of no importance.”
Why it's great
It refuses the yes-or-no and treats belief itself as beside the point.
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Formal
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Whether you like the color or not is of no importance. We ship Friday.
“Please, permit me to be infantile by myself.”
Why it's great
Courtly manners ask to be childish alone, which makes the door colder.
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Formal
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Please, permit me to be useless by myself tonight.
“As much as I dislike that job, it'll be preferable to this.”
Why it's great
Grading papers beats a gun, and the understatement makes the exit colder.
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Formal
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As much as I dislike dawn meetings, they are preferable to another night of slides.
Monologue
One character carrying the scene — shadow the whole passage❝ denial that accuses
Unconsciously, perhaps, by some biological or psychic mechanism that we can only guess at. I'm not saying you would do such a thing deliberately. I'm not saying that you would even know how to... Would you? But would such a thing be fair?
Each denial restates the charge, then fairness leaves no clean way out.
❝ invitation to the funeral
I'm only exploring what you have said. Whether I believe it or not is of no importance. We will die. You will live. Will you come to my funeral, John?
Belief is set aside, and a polite funeral question becomes the verdict.
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Questions, then the linesWhy does a gun come out?
It comes after the funeral question and the vampire question. Someone is told to hand the gun over or have an arm broken. The person holding it asks John about a shot to the arm, "Perhaps we could watch it heal," and about a bullet in the head. Afterwards the others ask where he got a gun and say it is not like Will.
What do they say happened to Mary?
Mary passed away yesterday. Asked who she was, someone answers "His wife." She had pancreatic cancer. Someone then says they did not know about Mary, and that they can see how this might have hit him. That is the whole account.
Does anyone admit they believe him?
No. Asked "So you believe me now?" the reply is "I'm only exploring what you have said," then "Whether I believe it or not is of no importance." The scene never gives a yes or a no.
Why is the apology turned away?
The apology is "I'm sorry. I can see how this might have hit you." What comes back is "Please, permit me to be infantile by myself." It asks to be left alone rather than comforted. The next line is "Will, please."