only friends, nothing romantic
Sally accepts dinner but adds just friends to draw a clear line between them.
Would you like to have dinner? Just friends.When Harry Met Sally... · 1989 — 第 5 / 20 章 · 4'31" · B2
Harry Amends the Friendship Rule, Explained：grow apart
Harry asks Sally to dinner, “just friends,” then has to defend the rule he once insisted on: men and women can't be friends. His fix is a loophole — they can be friends if both are involved with other people — which he immediately dismantles himself, landing on “Men and women can't be friends. Where does that leave us?”
あらすじ
At a diner, Harry suggests dinner “just friends.” Sally reminds him of his own earlier claim that men and women cannot be friends, so he proposes an amendment: they can, as long as both are involved with other people. He then argues the exception apart himself, until the rule stands again exactly where it started.
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このシーンの表現
grow apart
drift away from each other
Sally says she is not too upset because she and Joe had been drifting apart for a while.
Old friends often grow apart after college.
このシーンの他の表現
- just friends
only friends, nothing romantic
- an amendment to
a change to a rule
- missing from
absent from
- to the day
exactly on the same date
- take my eyes off
stop looking at
このシーンのメモ一覧
89 行のセリフに 30 件のメモ
in a relationship with
Unless both of them are involved with other people. Then they can.unless clause: Unless introduces the single exception: only if both have partners can they stay friends.
Unless both of them are involved with other people. Then they can.a change to a rule
Harry calls his new exception an amendment, sounding like a lawyer revising a statute.
This is an amendment to the earlier rule.relative clause: A relative clause without that modifies the person, with the preposition left at the end.
That doesn't work either, because then the person you're involved with...absent from
Harry argues that a partner will assume something is missing if you need an opposite-sex friend.
Like it means something is missing from the relationship.drawn to someone
of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with...let's be honest
Who are we kidding?meet by chance
I ran into her.stop looking at
The old man recalls spotting her at a funeral and being unable to look away.
But I couldn't take my eyes off you.Off and you link together into one sound.
But I couldn't take my eyes off you.meet for coffee
So I ditch Roberta. We go for coffee. A month later, we're married.abandon someone — Casual and a little blunt; means to drop someone.
So I ditch Roberta. We go for coffee. A month later, we're married.exactly on the same date
The old couple recall remarrying exactly thirty-five years after their first wedding.
Thirty-five years to the day after our first marriage.walk out on someone
The point is, he's never gonna leave her.The v in You've is so light it blends into known.
You've known this for two years.single and free — A light way to ask whether someone is single.
- You waited three days to tell us? - Joe's available?drift away from each other
Sally says she is not too upset because she and Joe had been drifting apart for a while.
I'm not that upset. We've been growing apart for quite a while.on public holidays
You had a date on national holidays.see someone as attractive
I don't happen to find him attractive, but you might.a time of grief — Literally a time of mourning, used here jokingly for a breakup.
I am over him, but I'm in a mourning period.no reason to
Sally argues it is pointless to date someone she might like but has no future with.
There is no point in my going out with someone I might really like...gerund with possessive: My going out is a gerund phrase whose subject is my, the thing said to be pointless.
There is no point in my going out with someone I might really like...a temporary boyfriend
of being anything to me but a transitional man.allow someone time
His wife left him, and everyone said, "Give him some time.on the point of
You're saying I should get married right away in case he's about to die?available somewhere
I'm saying that the right man for you might be out there right now.the remainder of your life
Marie warns Sally she will spend her whole future knowing someone else married her man.
You'll spend the rest of your life knowing that someone else...spend time doing: Spend plus time plus a gerund describes how time is passed doing something.
You'll spend the rest of your life knowing that someone else...Rest of your runs together with of reduced.
You'll spend the rest of your life knowing that someone else...「Harry Amends the Friendship Rule」を読み解く
What's really going on
The argument is not really about friendship; it is Harry and Sally negotiating whether they are allowed to want each other. Harry's amendment is a compromise he pretends is logic: friends are safe only if the romance is already taken, which is another way of admitting the attraction is always there. He even supplies the counter-argument himself — an involved partner will accuse you of being secretly attracted, “which you probably are” — and then shrugs with “Who are we kidding?” Sally's silence is the real answer. The rule and its amendment only exist because both of them keep circling the thing neither will say out loud.
Theme
RomanceThe whole debate is a way for two friends to talk about wanting each other without saying it.
FriendshipTheir attempt to legislate friendship shows how hard it is to keep the rules clean.
このチャプターで学べること
- A casual rule gets dressed up as a legal amendment.
- The argument circles back onto the two of them.
- Sally's calm breakup news unsettles everyone else.
- The old couple's reunion lands on one precise date.
発音のポイント
- off you — Off and you link together into one sound.
- You've known — The v in You've is so light it blends into known.
- rest of your — Rest of your runs together with of reduced.
Men and women can't be friends. Where does that leave us?Harry restates the original rule and turns it on them both: if the rule holds, their own closeness needs an explanation.
But I couldn't take my eyes off you.An older man's memory of spotting his future wife at a funeral — proof that friendship rarely survives real attraction.
Thirty-five years to the day after our first marriage.The couple remarried on the exact anniversary of their first wedding, a joke that doubles as a happy ending.
I'm saying that the right man for you might be out there right now.Marie's push to keep looking: the right person may already exist, and waiting has its own cost.
このシーンについての質問
Why does Harry suddenly want to be friends with Sally?
They have just met again after years apart and enjoyed the company. He proposes dinner “just friends” to keep it safe, even though his own old rule says friendship cannot work.
What is the amendment Harry proposes?
He says men and women can be friends when both are already involved with other people, because then the pressure of possible romance is lifted. He then argues the exception does not work either.
Why does Harry take the amendment back?
He points out that an involved partner will suspect the friendship and accuse you of being secretly attracted, which he admits is probably true, so the original rule stands.
Who is the couple that remarried thirty-five years later?
An older man in the interview segments: he ran into his future wife at a funeral, ditched his date, went for coffee, and married her a month later on the anniversary of their first wedding.
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次のチャプター · 第 6 章cushion the blowHarry Tells Jess About His Divorce
第 1 章in her right mindHarry and Sally Drive to New York
第 2 章strong suitSally Explains the Weekday Underpants
第 3 章get in the wayMen and Women Can't Be Friends
第 4 章keep in touch withHarry and Sally Reunite on a Plane
再生中 · 第 5 章grow apartHarry Amends the Friendship Rule
第 6 章cushion the blowHarry Tells Jess About His Divorce
第 7 章on a moment's noticeHarry and Sally Reunite in a Bookstore
第 8 章as hard as nailsHarry and Sally Become Friends
第 9 章high maintenanceHarry Calls Sally Late at Night
第 10 章get out thereHarry and Sally Talk Like This
第 11 章downshift into small talkSally Fakes an Orgasm
第 12 章hit it offHarry and Sally Slip Out at Midnight
第 13 章get over yourselfThe Double Date at the Restaurant
第 14 章call off the dogsHarry and Sally Shop for a Gift
第 15 章sooner or laterHarry Runs Into His Ex-Wife
第 16 章take your anger outHarry and Sally Have a Fight
第 17 章a dead endSally Calls Harry About Joe
第 18 章one thing led to anotherHarry and Sally's Awkward Morning After
第 19 章get past thisHarry and Sally Fight at the Wedding
第 20 章consolation prizeHarry's Answering Machine Message第 5 / 20 章 · 残り約 48 分