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Before Sunrise · 1995 — Capítulo 20 de 21 · 2'24" · B1

They Agree Not to Sleep Together, Explained: sleep together

A negotiation about whether to sleep together: one line says, "I don't think we should sleep together," because it would make the parting harder. Another agrees, and a later question asks, "You don't wanna see me again?" A conditional line says it would choose marriage over never seeing the other again. What the night means afterward is the real subject.

Qué pasa

Late at night, two people who have spent the evening together are alone. One line admits there is something stupid to say: "I don't think we should sleep together." The stated reason is not a lack of desire but the pain of a one-night goodbye. Another line agrees; a later question asks, "You don't wanna see me again?"

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sleep togethercan't help itjust so you cannot a big deal

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Expresión de la escena

sleep together

have sex

The line I don't think we should sleep together puts sleep together at the center; the earlier Wait. Wait. makes the pause audible.

I don't think we should sleep together just because the night feels perfect.

También en esta escena

  • can't help it

    can't control it

  • just so you can

    only so that you can

  • not a big deal

    not important, no big problem

  • for a lot less

    for far less

  • break a vow

    break a promise made as a vow

Todo lo marcado en esta escena

23 notas en 31 frases

Expresión · B1sleep together

have sex

The line I don't think we should sleep together puts sleep together at the center; the earlier Wait. Wait. makes the pause audible.

I don't think we should sleep together.
Sonidodon't think

Let the t in don't soften and slide into think.

I don't think we should sleep together.
Expresión · A2see someone again

meet again

I mean, I want to, but since we're never gonna see each other again,
Gramática · B1since we're never gonna see each other again

reason clause: Here since means because, making never seeing each other again the reason for the boundary.

I mean, I want to, but since we're never gonna see each other again,
Sonidogonna see

Keep gonna light and connected to see rather than stressing both words.

I mean, I want to, but since we're never gonna see each other again,
Expresión · A2make someone feel bad

make me feel guilty or sad

it'll make me feel bad.
Expresión · B1can't help it

can't control it

Can't help it follows It's not very adult and describes a reaction that will not switch off.

Maybe it's a female thing. I can't help it.
Sonidocan't help it

The t in can't is light, and help it often runs together.

Maybe it's a female thing. I can't help it.
Expresión · B2break a vow

break a promise made as a vow

The line has break our vow, referring to some vow between the two; the scene never says what it was.

No, I don't want you to break our vow just so you can get laid.
Expresión · B2just so someone can do something

only so that you can

After Let's see each other again, the reply uses just so you can to name the other person's motive outright.

No, I don't want you to break our vow just so you can get laid.
Jerga · B2get laid

have sex — Casual or crude talk; avoid it in formal settings.

No, I don't want you to break our vow just so you can get laid.
Expresión · B2a male fantasy

male sexual fantasy here, the clichéd male fantasy of a holiday fling

- I think we should. - No. Then it's like some male fantasy.
Jerga · B2fuck her

have sex with her — Vulgar and blunt; never use it in formal settings.

Meet a French girl on the train, fuck her and never see her again.
Expresión · B2a story to tell

an anecdote worth telling here, an anecdote to brag about, not just a good story

This great story to tell. I don't wanna be a great story.
Expresión · B1not a big deal

not important, no big problem

Okay. We don't have to have sex. It's not a big deal. uses not a big deal to shrink the issue and keep the other person from feeling rejected.

Okay. We don't have to have sex. It's not a big deal.
Expresión · B2give someone the choice

offer me the choice

If somebody gave me the choice right now of to never see you again or to marry you,
Gramática · B2If somebody gave me the choice

second conditional: The past-tense if-clause imagines a present choice; would in the next line completes the conditional.

If somebody gave me the choice right now of to never see you again or to marry you,
Expresión · A2get married

marry

And maybe that's a lot of romantic bullshit, but people have gotten married for a lot less.
Expresión · B2for a lot less

for far less

Right after a promise, for a lot less pulls the talk back to earth: people have married for far less.

And maybe that's a lot of romantic bullshit, but people have gotten married for a lot less.
Jerga · B2bullshit

nonsense — Good for informal complaints; too crude for formal or polite company.

And maybe that's a lot of romantic bullshit, but people have gotten married for a lot less.
Gramática · B2Now that we've talked so much

now that clause: Now that introduces a new fact—having talked so much—that changes her certainty.

Now that we've talked so much, I don't know anymore.
Expresión · B1make something complicated

overcomplicate things

Why do I make everything so complicated?
Sonidodo I make

Do I may blend; put the beat on make.

Why do I make everything so complicated?

They Agree Not to Sleep Together, explicado

What's really going on

The talk keeps turning: a boundary about sex becomes a question about whether they will meet again. One line says that, given a choice between never seeing the other again and marrying them, it would choose marriage — "I would marry you, all right?" — then calls the line "a lot of romantic bullshit," adding that people have gotten married for a lot less. One reply rejects the idea of being "some male fantasy": meet a French girl on the train, sleep with her, never see her again. "I don't wanna be a great story," comes the answer; the evening should not exist just to become an anecdote. The real subject is not sex but what the night will mean afterward. "It's not a big deal" tries to make the decision small, yet the talk keeps circling back to whether the other person wants to see them again.

Theme

RomanceTwo people weigh desire against the pain of parting, turning one night into a question about what love means.
TrustThe lines name jealousy and missing the other after parting: "I'll wonder who else you're with."

Escucha con atención

  • don't think — Let the t in don't soften and slide into think.
  • gonna see — Keep gonna light and connected to see rather than stressing both words.
  • can't help it — The t in can't is light, and help it often runs together.
  • do I make — Do I may blend; put the beat on make.
I don't think we should sleep together.

A direct but soft refusal: the line says the desire is there, but sex would make the coming goodbye harder.

This great story to tell. I don't wanna be a great story.

Being "a great story" means becoming an anecdote someone retells; the line refuses to be reduced to that.

I don't want this great evening to just have been for that.

The evening should matter for itself, not merely as a prelude to sex.

And maybe that's a lot of romantic bullshit, but people have gotten married for a lot less.

A self-aware romantic line: the promise may sound foolish, but people have married for far less.

Why do I make everything so complicated?

A question about why a simple night has turned into an emotional negotiation.

Preguntas sobre esta escena

Why does one line refuse sex?

One line says the desire is there, but since the two will never see each other again, it would make the speaker feel bad. The next line adds, "I'll wonder who else you're with. I'll miss you."

Why is the talk of marriage undercut right after it comes up?

One line says it would choose marriage, then adds "maybe that's a lot of romantic bullshit," and that "people have gotten married for a lot less." The line keeps the idea while admitting how it sounds.

Why does one line refuse to be "a great story"?

One reply calls the train scenario "some male fantasy": meet a French girl on the train, sleep with her, never see her again. Being "a great story" would make the evening something to retell rather than something that mattered.

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