“We only go around once in this life.”
Por qué es buena
A timeless truth that doubles as a license for anything.
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Neutral
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We only go around once, so quit the job you hate.
You only go around once; book the flight tonight.
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Bob's Wife Accepts an Open Marriage, Explained
Auto Focus · 2002
Capítulo 9 de 16 · 1'51"
The confrontation doesn't go the way it should. Instead of an ultimatum, the wife says she already knows about the other women - "The other women, I know all about them" - and offers permission rather than punishment. "We only go around once in this life" is the philosophy, and it is not a joke.
Key moments
Start here, then watch the full scene- 0:06–0:55
Bob's Vegas Trip Comes Up
48s - 1:16–1:49
The Wife Offers an Open Marriage
33s
Bob's Wife Accepts an Open Marriage, explained
What happens
Back from Las Vegas, Bob faces his wife's questions about the trip and the women. He tries to explain that his wife is good but doesn't understand his world. She turns out to know everything already, and instead of leaving, she offers a deal: an open marriage, no more lying, and the promise that she loves him as he is.
What's really going on
The scene sells itself as a wife being sensible, and that is exactly what makes it unsettling. She doesn't fight the affairs; she absorbs them. "The other women, I know all about them" turns her husband's secrets into something she has already processed and priced in. Then she supplies the rationale - "We only go around once in this life" - and asks only that no one lie about it. The last line, "I know who you are, and I love you," sounds like devotion but also like resignation dressed as acceptance. What the film plants here is the cost of a permission slip: a marriage that stays intact on paper while the honest part of it quietly disappears.
Key lines & what they mean
- “We only go around once in this life.”
- A carpe-diem line used as permission: since life happens only once, restraint and fidelity start to look like wasted time.
- “I know who you are, and I love you.”
- The wife's acceptance in one sentence: she claims to see him completely and to love the whole of it, even the part that hurts her.
- “The other women, I know all about them.”
- Her reveal: the affairs were never really a secret, because she had already worked out everything and chosen how to respond.
- “We've got nothing to be ashamed of.”
- A pre-emptive defense: instead of guilt, the couple reframes the arrangement as nothing anyone should hide or apologize for.
Theme
- Marriage — A couple renegotiates the rules of their marriage on the wife's terms, trading honesty for permission and calling it acceptance.
- Deception — Bob hides his life and lies about it until the wife says she already knows; the deceit at issue is the story he keeps telling himself.
Qué aprendes en este capítulo
Puntos de enseñanza
Repasa justo después de verMi nivel1/4
A1–C2 es la escala MCER. Las tarjetas por encima del nivel elegido se atenúan y la reproducción no se pausa en ellas.
Puntos de lengua
Toca una tarjeta para saltar a ese momentoFrases de oro
Una gran frase en sí misma: por qué y cómo usarla“I know who you are, and I love you.”
Por qué es buena
Love placed after full knowledge, not before it.
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Neutral
Úsala tú
I know what you did, and I still love you.
I know all your flaws, and I love you anyway.
“The other women, I know all about them.”
Por qué es buena
She reveals she has known all along, without raising her voice.
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Informal
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The rumors, I know all about them.
The lies, I've known about them all along.
“We've got nothing to be ashamed of.”
Por qué es buena
A refusal of outside judgment, stated as simple fact.
Registro
Neutral
Úsala tú
We've got nothing to apologize for.
You've got nothing to be ashamed of.
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Lo que te llevas- Use go around once for one life
- Clear shame with nothing to be ashamed of
- Let someone in on a real secret
Preguntas frecuentes
La pregunta, luego la fraseWhy does the wife accept the affairs?
She presents it as realism rather than surrender: life is short, she says, and she would rather grant permission than live with lies and secrets.
What does she ask for in return?
Only honesty. Her condition is that neither of them should have to lie about who they are, which is how the open marriage becomes an agreed rule.
What about the press and the public?
They're raised as a practical worry, and the answer is that the couple feels they have nothing to hide, even floating a wedding on the set for publicity.
Does this open marriage last?
Not in this scene. The arrangement is offered as a settled decision, but the film shows the cost of it building through the rest of the story.